Rage and Anger do you let your rage loose like wild fires that burn free until they burn out??? do you quell your rage and channel it into understanding and presence of mind??? although it is probably never as simple and clear cut /absolute as those..! i have always tempered my anger, it is natural for me to let it go and look for peace and possibility... in bad situations my instinct is to try to settle things quickly and find peace...! i find that 95% i naturally have less rage in conflicts... unless it crosses a point of morality, crosses a tipping point... but sometimes my peacemaking seems like a weakness, and i do have wild rage in my heart that kills all things...
i let my rage help me through many things, but i try to realize that most my anger comes from non existant things, and if I am letting something that doesn't exist bother me, then i have something wrong.
As long as I can speak out my anger and frustration, preferably to the person(s) who have something to do with the source of it, it just flows out of me. Since I found this out I always try to apply it. I never get aggressive though, but I can get very childish when I can't get rid of people orientated anger so it doesn't feel as a weakness for me at all to try to make peace.
I can't honestly say that I have ever felt rage. I have felt anger. I usually walk away from what has angered me until I have a better perspective on why it made me that angry and what I can do to change or eliminate it. In some situations there is no solution to what has made me angry so then comes a process of accepting what is and what I can not change.
I'm a big fan of letting it out, but I rarely do so in a violent form anymore. I just need to be physical or destructive. Honestly I usually just go for an extra run or hit the gym. If I'm really stressed, the firing range.
Oh yeah... Never take a job in customer service if they really cause you a lot of frustration. I don't mind helping clueless and rude people though, unless it's on the phone all goddamn day.
I usually take a few steps back into the back of the restaurant I work at and go on a long rant (ever seen Waiting? You know the super bitchy waitress who goes nuts every time she gets out of customer earshot? That's me in a nutshell), then I go back to the front and am sweet as sugar to those stupid fuckers. I hate customers.
I used to be violent when I was angry...I'd black out and come-to in a jail cell... Now I just go on rampages around the house, screaming and yelling and kicking objects (usually the objects are what start the rampages because of my lazy boyfriend)
yeah this is what I do. cus once I am mad I can't focus or do anything cus I am in a rage. so my only option is to do some crazy intense long exercise till I feel super tired. then once I am tired and relaxed from the workout my brain can think normally again. A couple years ago though I had a lot of problems and did not control my anger properly. I would breaks things and yell and go on and on about things and not shut up and totally just be super pissed at whoever did something to make me mad. i have gone to jail a couple of times because of my anger but actually now days there are certain people that I just can't stand. and basically I will take their shit and ignore it and keep trying to be their friend and wake up the next day with new beginnings and forget about whatever happened in the past. but once a person keeps being disrespectful, rude, annoying, and thinking they are better than me, and give me some mocking evil laugh once they know they are starting to get under my skin , then it is like OK FUCKER THAT LAUGH JUST FUCKING PISSED ME OFF!!!!!!!!!!!! then I am ready to throw some fists and crack a smirk off someone's face cus I am raged. sometimes I feel some people just need to get their ass kicked. but I am mostly a very peaceful kind person and it takes a long time till someone finally sets off my angry side. oh and usually once I am ready to kick someone's ass I tell them to leave nicely and tell them nicely that I do not wanna be around them anymore and if they still keep bugging me and laughing once I told them I can't be around them anymore then that is when I rage and my arms fill up with blood and prepare to give them a solid punch to the jaw. back when I had a job I hated the customer service part of it. my manger forced everyone to be like a robot and you had to be all fake and act all friendly and nice and alert and talk in some very nice friendly tone and act all energetic and up. and like that was hard cus I am the opposite of some energetic up personality. I am one of those lay backed mellow people who do not talk real fast. now days if I do get a job I do not care. I am just gonna act chill and be myself.
