Phone sex with a friend that's taken

So this coworker of mine and I have been flirting back and forth for a few months now, he has a girlfriend and I'm single. The other night we were chatting on facebook and things started getting real heavy. We were exchanging pics on our phone then describing to each other what we would want to do to each other... things like "i'd pull your hair and do you doggy, slip a finger in your ass" etc etc... We were going back and forth for hours. Then the next day at work we were flirting so bad and things weren't awkward at all. After work, I get home and he's texting me saying things like "i couldn't stop staring at your ass" etc etc.. He ends up calling me and we have an intense phone sex conversation. I came twice! He was calling me a "dirty slut" and talking about my amazing lips being on his dick and
"cumming all over my pretty face".. it was probably the hottest thing I've ever experienced. Just hearing him orgasm will get me off for the rest of the week haha.

What I want to know is, is this considered cheating? I think it is and I feel like a bad person. I'm 22 and he's going to be 26. He's only been with his girlfriend for a year and from what he says she's a major bitch. Am I a slut for going along with this? Clearly we're very attracted to each other and I don't know if I should continue with these conversations bc obviously I'm setting myself up to get hurt. HELP!

 

No your not a slut for this, you are just happen to being doing this w/ him at the wrong time(because he has a girlfriend). It seems that he's just physically attracted to you, and just doing this just to get his self worked up, I hope you don't start develop feelings for this guy. He probably just using you? Plus he's your co-worker? Very awkward.

And yes this is considered cheating on his part, and if his girlfriend is a bitch then why he still with her? Thats why I think he's using you.

 

yes it's cheating, and yes it is at least borderline slutty.

 

whaaat if he keeps saying, "i hope you don't feel used?"

does that mean he at least cares a little bit? haha. i definitely don't expect him to leave his gf. i just needed a little insight as to whether or not i should keep up with these conversations bc i honestly really enjoy them. :2thumbsup: i don't see myself getting emotionally attached to this guy especially since i just got out of a really tough relationship myself.

 

You aren’t a slut but it is cheating but who cares your 22 have your fun gurl. get dat dick, but remember how you get him is how u keep him this man is not good bf material I don’t think. He might be the exception to the rule but eh.

 

You are not a slut, you are a normal female.
He is cheating.
He should decide what he wants - the relationship with the GF or one with you.

 

yea. hav fun. but wat about the girl he's dating, thats mess up to continue doing that knowing that he has a gf

 

the girlfriend will find out sooner or later, so enjoy while it lasts

 

There is a big controversy currently regarding computer sex and social/marrital responsitility. So, whatever side anyone takes the issue has not yet been sifted though the scientific analysis of normality.

For me, I find the word "slut" to be as offensive and non-meaning as the word "fuck." But that is just me. We are all sluts toward something. I prefer your method of sluttiness against most other forms.

A marriage signifies ones responsibility toward the emotional health of another. The methods by which this responsibility is met is a personal obligation between two (or more) individuals of adult maturity. Key to this responsibility is the necessity for open communication and expectations in the marriage. A marriage in reality is a contract for performance.

There is no marriage in this instance, nore a contract. Should there be a marriage the very fact one communicates in any way (in person or by computer) with another COULD be considered in violation of the marriage contract.

 

agreed.


it makes you slutty and trashy cause youre knowingly doing this with someone who has a gf...

how would you feel if your bf did it to you?

 

You're so conservative,,

 

She does have a point... if you wouldn't like the same thing done to you, you shouldn't do it yourself.

 

call it what you want but I have respect for people, even people I dont know...and there's some lines you just dont cross.

its not about being a prude or conservative or whatever its about courtesy for fellow humans.

 

lol