My lady and I are celebrating our anniversary soon. Recently she has started suggesting that she would like to try something new in the bedroom. We've been together three years and now she has become interested in domination. Perhaps it was always something she had wanted but hadn't asked until now. Well, she is the only sexual partner I have ever had while she has had a bit more experience in that field. I've never dominated anyone before, I mean I have at times been kind of aggressive in the bedroom per her request but I'm not real sure what domination would include. She has said that she isn't interested in being spanked but just dominated and told what to do. I really need some advice here. Any personal expertise you can share or links that will help me out?
FIRST , pick a safe word , one she can use to let you know to stop what yer doing without blowing the mood. SECOND , since this is more like giving it a try , do things like grabbing her by the hair , maybe shoving her around and onto the bed or against the wall while you tell her all the stuff you either want her to do to you , or you to her. You get the idea..... THEN....you can try the tying her down thing....but do the other stuff first. HAVE FUN
Good advice about easing into it slowly! One thing I find exquisite is carefully placing the other person's hands against a surface (headboard, wall, their head etc) then telling them they are NOT to move their hands. Then you do something that will utterly drive them wild and make them want to touch you. Then you can bring in more 'domination' by stopping, and saying if they move another inch you will stop again. Is good with a blindfold or forbidding them to open their eyes! Self-restraint is the most evil form of restraint But first, go back and talk to her some more. She is the only one that can tell you what she wants
