Ok I am a VERY bisexual married male. I have recently gotten re-married almost a year ago but never came out to her. I have been bi since high school and have had MANY experiances and am wanting them again....So much in fact that I am having dreams and masterbating many times daily thinking about being with a man again. I need help because my wife SAYS she thinks bi and gay men are nasty, and would puke at the thought, but she always makes off color comments about me being gay, her doing me with a toy and wanting the real thing ect... She just started playing with my bung while servicing me and she always pokes fun now that she wants to do me and I have told her that I would love to have a three some with another man to fulfill her fantisy of being with 2 men, and she says "you would let him suck you off, its just a mouth and would get you ready to fuck me" then I "joked" and said yeah that would be hot and she shook her head and said gross. What do I do cause I am in DYER need for some cock but I will not be unfaithfull to her. She and I have been married for a year and together for 2 years and have a newborn together, I dont want to mess my family up, but I need help.
:love::smash: There's your bonk on the head for marrying her without coming out to her. Not smart dude and what is a marriage if you aren't open about who you are. Advice: buy her a strapon cuz she's made herself pretty clear
I know, I should have but I thought I was over that part of me and clearly I am NOT. A strap-on you think so? I LOVE strap on play with women but when she says that she says it in a joking manner. I just wouldnt want to get that and freak her out and her leave me, I love her but I also need bi sex too.
IMO if you can control yourself and not cheat on her if she's got a strapon to fill the void then by all means persue it. I can't speak for how prude your wife is, it just seems like your best bet to me. If your not ever going to open up about your history and desires with men, then just tell her your interested in feeling different forms of physical pleasure. I think most women get that the male anal orgasm is biological rather than strictly homosexual
Dude it seems to me that she already knows something is up. Maybe the jokes and comments are being made to gauge your response.
divorce her. If you know you're bisexual and know you will want to get with both men and women why in the hell do you get married to someone who will restrict your life? and ignoring and suppressing your desires will only cause you mental health problems later in life, so I say you should do something about this situation. It is your own fault for being in this mess in the first place, you should have told her right from the beginning. Maybe you'd be in a more understanding marriage today, or maybe she never would have married you at all, but at least you would know, and your life would be built on an honest foundation. Now all you have left is coming out to your wife, explaining to her that you also need guys sexually and hope she will come around, or get with guys without her knowing. you've already lied about one thing, so lying some more won't make that much of a difference. sorry, but it is your own fucking fault.
a strap-on does not substitute a man. Guys are a whole package of certain physical and emotional traits that no female with a strap-on will ever be able to emulate much less make a satisfactory substitution for. sex with guys is not just about cock. and sex with a female with a strap-on is just that---sex with a female. he wants guys. which begs the question, why he's in this marriage in the first place.
I have to say I agree - considering you were quite clear within yourself that you are bi then there is no excuse for entering into another relationship keeping your sexuality hidden; that is no basis for a successful relationship - in fact it is not a relationship, it's just a lie. And to have a child with her in this pretence, not fair on her or on the child's future. Sorry man i have no a sympathy for potentially ruining two other people's lives because you want to pretend to the world you are hetero. Simon
Not meant to imply a dildo is a replacenent for a man, just that it might fill some of the "empty space" OP mentioned toys
That is pretty much never the truth. She's just trying to train you. She knew what you were before she married you, not that hard to catch you checking out guys, getting a little too excited in certain situations. One of the reasons she was drawn to you, she thought it was a little kinky. I wouldnt worry about it though, a newborn you say? and probably another couple to come, you both wont have time to worry about this kind of crap again till they get into high school. By which time you'll both be bored of marriage and be off to swingers clubs to watch her get done by 6 guys or swapping partners etc, whilst keeping that secret from your close friends and of course your kids....you know, just like your parents kept it from you
It's not easy for the fella to balance everything in his life like that. You may be from a different environment that isn't as judgmental as his. He's not trying to destroy anyone's life. If he wasn't concerned about his actions he wouldn't have come on the forum looking to share his worries with ppl. People should be more sympathetic and understand that he never asked for the curse of bisexual sexuality and is dealing with it as best he can. Trying to keep everyone happy without going mad himself. The best and most practical solution isn't always to tell everyone the truth! Life is more complicated than that! He might be better off using an escort (no relationship issues) which will relieve him so he can focus on his priorities, his wife and kids!
i was never saying that he should go around and tell everyone he meets that he is a bisexual. actually i didn't even say he should tell the truth in this case. i said he should either tell the truth or go behind her back for sex with males. you're right, truth isn't always the best way to go, and sometimes it is better to lie. however, if you are a guy wanting to get with other guys AT THE SAME TIME that you're married to a female.....not telling will cause you a hell of a lot of problems. not to mention it's not fair to the person you're married to, or yourself. say you get married, how would you feel if in the middle of it your partner told you, 'oh by the way i also like men/women (choose whatever you didn't know about) and i want sex with them too'. this is something you talk about BEFORE marriage. i have no sympathy for people who go into a relationship based on lies. also--curse of bisexuality?
