Obligated reciprocation

Having a guy push you into oral sex is THE worst thing ever. Having a penis in your mouth when you don't want it there is the most degrading thing I have ever felt. It almost made me stop messing around with guys. I am not talking rape, which is on the same level. I am talking about being obligated to do it. Like you fuck a guy or he sucks you off then you have to suck his dick. That's the worst thing about being with a guy. Reciprocating when you don't want to is a bitch and makes me feel like I am a piece of shit.

Thats the only drawback to gay stuff, is that you have to reciprocate every time almost. With a girl its easy, they get satisfied by you satisfying yourself. A girl will give you a blow job and not expect to be eaten out. Thats whats awesome about girls. Guys on the other hand force you into getting them off too, which isn't bad when you are in the mood to do so. I have to get them off first in order for me to enjoy gay stuff. Because after I cum I don't usually want to do anything sexual afterwords. I know it sounds selfish, but I'm spoiled because I am bi and know what its like with a girl. I love girls

I just wish there was a guy out there that was like a girl in the fact that they are happy with getting you off istead of it being a deal like that; you get me off I get you off. It makes it seem not like love at all. That's why I like to just get them off sometimes. But then they want to get me off afterwords... Which is even more annoying since I don't want to get off every time they want to!

So my question is, how many of you gay guys will get your boyfriends off without making them get you off? And do you feel bad if they get you off and don't want you to do anything afterwords?

 

Reciprocation has become an issue largely, if not only due to the trendsetting by the major porn producers. Like it or not, guys watch porn and adopt the view that what happens in their fav porns should happen in real life, too.

Do some footwork before hitting the hay. State clearly that you are a top not giving any reciprocation.

This works small wonders. Guys who are into bottoming only will get in touch with you. If someone did not get the message, say "nope" and move on. You have told them ahead of time what to expect, and if they went with it, it was their decision...

The notion that you have any obligation to provide other dude with his orgasm is simply a folly. This idea came into the gay world from the heterosexual concept in which a man, supposedly a "chivalrous gentleman" was supposed to work tirelessly and bring multiple orgasms to his female lover assuring her of his undeniable sexual prowess and thus, securing that she never tries the same thing with another man.

Sex is not about reciprocation. Sex is about compatibility. You are not looking for someone to trade favors with but for someone who enjoys receiving what you enjoy giving.

KD

 

Im sorry but Ive been dressed as a girl and havent had any guy think he was going to treat me like one.... Case point No Rep, you do me, I gag you with my dick.. Not the other way around. I dont dress up to be someones whore. Period.. my role is straight dom tv. with men.

Ive found one good guy I likes he is an all the way partner... And Im seeing a T-girl. I was with 2 other t-girls pretty much all oral. I wouldnt be putting my head there if I didnt want it. And my male partner now. While he claimed to be top. I had to get his hands on my head to control a face fuck. I was damn dude my neck is hurting moving it by myself. can you just fuck my face.. hahah .. ahhhhhh Sweet :0

It would basically turn me off too for someone to try that when Im not down with it. Nothing has happened like that. But one instance this fat boy whom I thought was strong and shit, tries to pick me up to lick my asshole. almost drops me on my ass. I almost broke a 160.00 dollar pair of shoes. I mean really wtf!! Then he wants to suck my dick from the ass side. Like ok maybe if Im soft you stupid fuck. but my dick dont point that way.. Finally hes back there trying to lick my ass, and I hear him fumbling with a wrapper to a condom.. For one the fat fuck is to big to even get near my ass with his pencil dick.. So I said "what you doing.?" hes like "ahh I wanna fuck you" alrighty then.. Dude are you fucking kidding?? Meanwhile I figured what more harm could he do because hes not getting in there. Not on my widest gap there is no way.. So he tried and tried, and hes back there fucking something, but Ill tell you it wasnt my ass. I didnt feel anything but fat slapping off my backside. Thank god the fucker didnt want the light on.. That was a little depressing. But only one instance where others were really entertaining for all. Getting all the strange out my system so to have a better relationship with others I can settle down with... It become very mechanical just going out getting my dick sucked with no rep while to it was incredibly exciting...

 

first off, no-one can force you to reciprocate anything. if a guy sucks you off, or you fuck him and then later you find yourself with his cock in your mouth, then YOU are responsible for that. if you don't want to do something just say no. but going along with it and then going around blaming the other guy for doing something you didn't want to is low man. you're a man, you're responsible for your own actions. you know what it feels like being sucked, can you blame the other guys wanting the same from you once they've done that to you?

that being said, i wouldn't touch you with a stick.

 

Well there has been times where my boyfriend didn't want to give any head back. Well I lightly push him but I let the issue go cause he's usually good for it down the road. Besides I really enjoy giving him head. But we are mighty used to each other now and been together for years so issues like sex are a minor thing anyways. Getting him to clean the place up, now theres an issue lol.

 

I am perfectly happy blowing a guy without reciprocation.
In fact I prefer it that way! Am I awesome?

 

Jeezus.

You're kidding yourself if you think this is the case, and they are not just faking cos they feel they have to to hang on to the boyfriend. Or get that ring on their finger, or get you to treat them well.

I usually complain a lot about the female half of the population. But on this topic, I am on their side, its no wonder so many of them just give up. Not really having a go at you, its an attitude common with a lot of straight/ bi guys. But this (as well as personal hygiene ) are the main reasons I havent gone anywhere near bi guys in decades.

For your own sake, you need to fix this, you dont think you'd enhance your game with the ladies if you were able to get them off just as quick as you, or a couple times before you, or during?

More than likely you've already had at least one girlfriend that said stuff like I'm just satisfied if he's satisfied because you were a good boyfriend otherwise all the while hooking up with the secret lover that could make her cum hours on end and didnt even have to buy her dinner.

Same rules with us, the guys that really know what they are doing get all the action. Just talking about not wanting to put his thing in your mouth is a red flag, well then get them off with just your hands in 30 seconds, or hit the gym so them just wanting to blow over your pecs will be enough.

Dont bother complaining about everyone else, you wont change them, improve yourself

One more thing, think long and hard as to the real reason you find it so degrading, why are you doing something you are not really into?

 

Same here.