I think my best friend and I may be having an emotional affair. I may just be over analyzing, but I'm starting to think that if we're not already having one, we're on the edge of having an emotional affair. We talk a lot, which is normal for best friends, but we talk about things that she should probably be talking about with her spouse. Should I be concerned? Is this really as big of a deal as I'm starting to think it is? Input?
What would you like to know in particular? Their marriage has been rocky for a couple of years now, I know all the details, and he has no idea that I know what I know. He knows that I date women, and he recently has been asking questions about my motive in our friendship. She and I spend a lot of time together, we're like sisters that neither of us ever had -- If we can't get together in person, we check in by phone or e-mail at least once a day...I've basically become part of the family. What else would you like to know?
Everything. We talk about everything under the sun. From the kids, to music and beyond. We rant about my family, we rant about her family. We talk about the potential of her marriage lasting (or not lasting) into the future, and we vent about what works and doesn't work in our households. It gets deeper than that, but I'm not so sure my comfort level for posting publicly is all that good.
If he's an emotionally abusive asshole -- maybe. Otherwise, no. Even if he is, good. When people say "emotional affair" they generally are referring to romantic relationships or romantic flirting/behavior outside of their relationship, but without physical consumation.
So far it all sounds to me like typical stuff 2 close girlfriends would share. Maybe you're just reading too much into it/wishful thinking? Do you care for her in that way? Is she giving off signals that she is interested in taking it in a romantic direction? I have and have had girlfriends who are my soul sisters, I care for and love them dearly and share just about everything with them... but I love them in a different way than I love my boyfriend.
i thought thats what bff's did? they shared every little detail of life with eachother? perhaps its not an emotional affair at all but subconciously you want it to be because youre actually in love with her and not ready to admit it?!
^^this. Giving advice that they are asking for is perfectly normal. It's when you start talking to the person on a different level...whether it be sexual or emotional-toward each other...that's when it becomes emotional cheating. In the meantime, you are just counseling them
Yeah, I've made it clear that I like her more than I should but don't want it to get messy so I'll keep my hands to myself. Her husband has begun to question some things...So that's why I'm starting to wonder if we're deeper emotionally than we should be. Oh well, to each their own.
