Hey all. New to the forum. In short, here's my deal: I have an insatiable spanking fantasy and unfortunately, my girlfriend of 5+ years really isn't into sexual "experimentation," and to make matters even worse, I think she actually hates spanking. I've tried desperately to bring it up, and have even attempted to ease into it -- some light pats on her ass if she's wearing tight jeans or a hot short skirt, to no avail! Any advice? Honestly, I'm so turned on by the thought of a hot ass bent over in front of my face just for me to spank, that I've even considered "stepping outside of the relationship" but I don't want to be that person. Hoping some like minded people could share their thoughts, and perhaps some girls can chime in and give me some advice! In general, my girlfriend is very "conservative" -- sexually, behaviorally, the way she dresses, etc. I love to experiment, drink, smoke, etc. but her not really. I love her to death, but am desperately seeking ways to "liven" up the relationship. Thanks!
Oh, I've done that. Ok, perhaps not a wollop, but I've definitely fucked her from behind and slapped her ass a few times, and she's always given me that "did you really just do that" look. It's the same look that I get when I try to push her head down on my cock when she's blowing me. She hates that. Odd thing is, she seems to like light choking and gets really wet when I wrap my hands around her neck during foreplay.
Oh, because she isn't smart or aware enough to decide if she wants to be kinky? Rein in your inner ass. She is who she is, you are who you are. Is spanking your deal breaker? If so, move on. If not, carry on. Granted the opposite position is so much easier to handle as a partner is willing to give spanking the sub/bottom a whirl faster than a Top can talk a partner into getting spanked.
You probably have not got her head in the right place yet... For it to really work for her she has to totally trust you and her mind needs to be kinda in that special place. Try to do a bit of role-play or fantasy with her and see if she likes to explore those erotic places in her mind..
i'm in the opposite boat! i want my boyfriend to spank me, but he always tells me he just doesn't feel comfortable. even when i'm in doggy and he's pounding the shit out of me, the mere suggestion of spanking changes the whole dynamics and he gets weird!!! ask your girlfriend if she wants to play swapsies!!
Try trading favors, take what she loves the most in bed and lay it on her, then hit her up in the moment for what you want, then work her again as a thank you. That has hooked me a couple times, horny judgment tends to be skewed. if she likes be choked even lightly then there may be a freak inside you just need to trigger.
