cheating

i wish you the best as well. hope it works out.

 

Its not the sex act that is the cheating, its the deception.
Im not cutting sex to discipline him at all. Im cutting the sex because the trust is gone and I have enough self respect to not put myself at any further risk.
As far as unprotected sex goes I don't see how its different for gays than it is for heterosexuals. If heterosexuals in monogamous relationships were using condoms they wouldn't be having babies. Its no different for gay men except we don't usually have sex to reproduce. In fact a lot of heteros don't even use condoms for casual sex.

Im glad for you that you can manage to have a successful open relationship without jealousy. Personally I'm not interested in anything other than monogamy, thats my choice and thats what works best for me. I'm not jealous because of what happened in any way. I'm disappointed that the trust was broken. I've told him from day one that I don't own him and if he decided to have sex with someone else or if he slipped up like any human can that as a matter of respect and honour for each other that we must let each other know. He didn't. Instead he hid it from me until he was forced to tell me because he gave me syphilis. If you think thats ok you need your head seen to.

I agree with you that the binding force is friendship but good friends also have trust. Any healthy relationship monogamous or not is built on trust. Without it you don't have much. Even in open relationships I'm sure there are rules that are discussed between partners and lines that must never be crossed.

 

Anal sex is high risk. Doesnt matter if its a guy doing a girl or another guy. Unprotected NEVER EVER

I touched on this before, give us a 100% guarantee that you have been monogamous.....which is why in the end its kind of useless, you can never REALLY know that about a partner. You can say you have been till you are blue in the face, but he's never going to be completely sure

If he lied to you about his favourite movie, said it was Dark Knight, when its really Shrek 2, didnt say the truth cos he's a little embarrased about that. Thats a breach of trust. Dont go pretending its about the trust, you have to lie in every relationship you are in whether its family, plutonic or romantic. Dont go pretending you're not a lot more angrier about this breach of trust cos it involves his hands all over someone else....because then you are lying, which in itself is a breach of trust

I like most did when they were teens lied my ass off to my parents, and siblings. Most work relationships are BS, fake like the boss to get ahead, fake like the collegues so things run smoothly. Everyone has to modify their true selves from friends and family so they dont judge, feel out of place, get along.

Everyone has to lie in every relationship they've ever been in or will be in, in one way or another, if for no other reason than to protect the other persons feelings.

The syphillis thing is pretty nasty, but I'm sure he didnt intentionally go out to catch it.

Just make sure the message is going to get interpreted the way you mean it. Over emphasize too much how faithful you've been when again he can never be completely sure will end up having the opposite effect: that you're trying to cover something up.

Over emphasize the I can / You cant argument will just end up sounding holier than thou; trying to make him feel dirty / guilty for wanting sex. Which is the same mistake the chics make....will just reinforce him hiding things from you...until one day, forget about cheating with sex, he'll find another romantic relationship will someone that doesnt try making him feel guilty all the time

 

Nice attempt at trolling but epic fail. Despite your very twisted view there are no excuses, no justification for this behaviour period.
ps- penetrative sex is high risk - anal or vaginal
Bye

 

I cheat
my wife is totally wrong for me but I have a 9 year old and I have a problem with a job right now ones I get one Ill leave her.
I need my own place not move in with the girl friend but my own.
can't stand my wife's family and hate the retard 34 year old nephew living with us.
she won't get rid of it I tried and I even beat his ass after he tried to hit me with a hammer. next time he will leave in a body bag. I can't leave it when my sun is here. it scares me. any ways I'm no longer attracted to wife my wife when she opens her mouth it goes back down. her or my hand my hand wins lucky I have a girl friend. I got married to her because of my first wife leaving me sounds stupid but for some reason I needed some one to love.