Is this guy gay and into me? Why or why not?

So I'm 17 and gay. I'm also in the closet and not one of those "stereotypical gays." My friend (also a guy and 17), who I've known for a couple years and am in LOVE with, has been acting kind've gay the past several months, ESPECIALLY to me. I really REALLY like him so it would be cool if he is gay. We both go to the same high school and swim yearround together. Although we talk a lot, we don't txt or hang out very much at all (except at practice and school). He does things like: slaps my a**, tells me I'm sexy or cute, says he wants to f**k me and loves me, is very touchy-feely, has asked me to be his boyfriend (if he was a girl or even as is), asked if I'd hook up with him, randomly hugs me, and once said "your watch doesn't match your sexy outfit." I get that there are a lot of straight guys who act gay just to be funny, but is he going too far? Yes, he does much of this in a joking manner, but a lot of it he says in a very serious manner too--like he has told me that he is in fact gay (yet I just "brush it off" as a joke, and we both continue to just be friends).

He has also called me gay and often makes fun of me (like at practice today, for stupid sh*t idc), and when I get mad he says "I love you" and hugs me and just stares and smiles at me A LOT. He also sometimes says HI to me multiple times or does other annoying stuff just to get my attention.

But he: talks about f**king girls (has never actually f**ked a girl before,,might still be prude), has had one girlfriend before (who is apparently now bi), is seemingly into this other girl right now (but I don't think they're going out or have even done anything, and could be a cover-up?), makes frequent gay jokes, says the stupid "my penis is bigger" joke, and talks about how much pu*sy he or I or someone else would get, blahblahblah.

However, He's OBSESSED with his body (is very much into lifting and admires himself in the lockerroom mirror,etc--thinks himself is sexy), is all masculine (the way he walks, talks, and acts), and eats extremely healthy--never eats anything that he thinks’ll make him "fat." Just seems kindve superficial and self absorbed (like myself). *Yet he does make gay jokes a lot.* He’s even leaned his head on my shoulder a few times and always stares and smiles at me and randomly hugs me. *I've actually told him that I'm gay and he's told me that he's gay too (in a serious manner), but I feel like we both just don't take it seriously and don't follow up with any action...THAT IS THE PROBLEM!

So is he gay (or at least bi or bicurious) and into me? Please explain WHY you think so? WHAT SHOULD I DO TO GET THE BALL ROLLING? Thanks so much

Asked on behalf of jacobaudi93

 

not to be crude but i'd suggest you both should just get nekked and start fuckin. after a bit of that you should be able to sort each other out. damn bubba, the kid sounds as horny as a goat. so why don't you take him up on some of his silly talk and call him out. next time he says something about wantin some of your action offer it to him.
or don't. you could always grow older, grow apart and spend the rest of your life wondering what you missed

 

Get him drunk and alone

 

oh,just have a look.you know your are very mature and sexy

 

this here is the key part to all of it. he sounds like he doesn't know what he wants. he might understand he's gay but he might not know if he wants to do something about it.

it's up to you whether you are willing to wait and hope on someone who doesn't know what he wants. i've never bothered with guys like that. it drains you more than it does them.

you could make one serious effort to get with him, but if he continues to be vague and noncommittal, it's not worth it. there are other guys out there, who know what they want and act on it.

 

I don't know what "stereotypical gays" means since all the gay guys I've met say the same thing over and over again, as if it's some kind of badge to get laid more often. I live both in a big city and the suburb and I've encountered quite a number of teens in my volunteer work with STD because there are too many spots to hook up, including the church down the street! Be careful, always, if this helps at all. It only takes one time to slip up. Regret always comes too late.

 

HIV is most easily transmitted through blood.. fact. Some people experience bleeding during anal sex, hence this is the most routine method of transmission; so be careful and remember to protect yourself.

 

regret must have gotten really good at spocking it down

 

Lol.

 

Why don't you just tell the world your gay... For real dude you got one life to live so get off your ass and live it.

 

In your situation I would stir up some of that flirty conservation grab and rub his crotch and push him down on the nearest couch/bed or even floor. If he doesn't object, start unzipping his pants and I'm sure you can think of the rest.

Some guys think it's been to start with a kiss, I've had been luck going straight for the crotch lol. Oh if you are really timid you could rub his thighs.

 

Yeah straight guys find a kiss to be too gay but oral and anal seem to be fine

 

I can't agree more. This is very strange but I very rarely get a kiss but got plenty of other kinds of action. It's rather disappointing.