As I've posted before, I'm attracted to my friend. She knows about it, we've talked about it, she's straight, so it's not going to go anywhere as far as dating is concerned...Which is OK with me, because it's obvious that we care about each other a lot, and I am really glad that we are friends. Here's my snag up, though -- I'm still attracted to her! I think with time, it will run its course and it we'll remain really good friends, but I'm struggling with suppressing this attraction, or allowing it to run its course. Does anyone out there have any suggestions or recommendations? This is nothing I would ever end our friendship over, and I won't try anything with her (unless sobriety would be in question...which it won't be). How do you suppress attraction...Or overlook attraction? I'm treating this like a celebrity crush for now -- (impossible, still feelings exist).
Aw I am so sorry that it's not going to go anywhere because she's straight, but I think it's very sweet that you wanna hold onto the friendship. I don't know how you can stop your feelings but all I can say is just don't act on them. All I can say is hopefully some girl will come along that is the same way as you and maybe something could start up there.
I could never be friends with someone who was crushing on me that I wasn't attracted to. I've had that happen before with male friends and it was just awkward for me... the friendship always ended up being just a way to try to get with me. Where you attracted to her when you first met or is it something that developed? If it's torturing you enough and she is single, I say get her alone in a comfortable environment when the moment feels right just lay a kiss on her hoping she goes with the flow. If not, hope for the opposite reaction to where it pisses her off so much that she will want to end the friendship, you laugh it off and after not seeing her anymore, the crush will naturally die out.
We were friends for about a year before I was like "Wow, I really like her." It's not that she's not attracted to me, it's that she's not interested in anyone. Period.
I think the 'celebrity crush' line is fantastic! I am so going to use that. I have a crush on a straight friend who is in a relationship. She is naturally flirty which drives me nuts. I know it won't ever go anywhere and I guess I have been seeing it like a celebrity crush in a way. I am happy now having her as my 'playful crush'. Much though I have to fight the desire to kiss her, I have figured out many things that would annoy me if we were in a relationship. That helps a lot. It makes it not worth it.
Yeah, I always wonder what it'd be like to kiss her, and it irks me that I'll never know. She knows that I like her, and it was pretty awkward for me. I don't necessarily want to have sex with her --- Honestly, sex freaks me out, I have to be super comfortable with someone first...and sex isn't a comfortable thing for me...But I wouldn't mind cuddling, flirting, holding hands and so on. I hate being attracted to my best friend though. It's THE WORST.
I've been exactly where you are. We are best friends she knows I have a mad crush on her and still she keeps dating these boys. I try to be as understanding as I can even though everytime see her and she's with another boy and its clearly ripping my heart out of my chest I know it can never be I love her more than she'll ever love me. Stupidly there's a tiny part of me that hopes I am wrong.
