Well me and my friend went clubbing and came back to my parents house pretty drunk. I told my parents we were going to my room to watch a movie. Well my friend and I started to screw around and he had his pants off and my Dad busts open the door asking where the TV remote was. Geez I don't usually stay at my parents but its the summer. Well he asked me a little angrily if there was something between my friend and I. Surprised he felt the need to ask but I just couldn't bring myself to say yes. It's been about a day now and he hasn't mentioned it again and things feel back to normal. But I feel like I should have said yes and finally get it out I'm sure he has his suspicions anyways.... well of course. At times I feel like they deserve to know. Or have them stay in denial might work for me too. Anyways what would you do?
I wont ever tell I find it insulting that they feel they need to know I wouldn't tell them about some girl I was fucking but just cause im with a guy my sex life is every ones business no. U did the right thing. How u covered that up I dunno but good on ya
They already know. You'll come to realise your mother especially probably knew all along, you may have stuck out as different when you were little - the way you interacted differently to the other kids. Mothers always know. Coming Out wont change that denial thing, you'll still have older woman, including your mum just assuming its a phase, or that its just about sex and when you get older and libido settles down, you'll pick a girl and get married, have babies - rationalize it whichever way it suits them.....which lets you know how they really think, once a guy has given up on sex he's ripe for the matrimonial plucking Your Dad will get angry, but its not really about you, worrying about fending off the dumb jokes when he's at the bar with his mates. Worrying about whether he failed as a parent. A guy can be fine with the gay thing in general, but still worry that with his son; does this mean he was too distant, too strict, or too soft - then theres worrying about what all the other dads think it means. Anyhow, coming out is probably necessary to see all these competing agendas in action. Your mum will stay in denial and patronize you, pushing you towards marriage, even though she probably knew what you were when you were little, whereas your sister if you have one will want you to stay gay so she can run around telling everyone she has a gay brother "How cool am I". Girls that have a crush on you will put extra effort into trying to making out the gay thing is disgusting, whereas others will just use you to piss off their boyfriend and giggle. Your Dad will just want you to keep your mouth shut, whilst other guys as soon as they find out, wont want to know you, whereas the cooler ones, more secure - to them you become the perfect wingman But that denial works for you too, keep the cheap fake lenseless glasses on and everyone will pretend they just see Clark Kent, pretend they dont know you are Superman
i would tell the truth. right now, it's outright lying to your dad. the sooner you tell the sooner he will get to collect his thoughts on this and come to accept it (unless he's really bigoted).
Well you know ur father and ur parents so its up to you if u feel they would be alright with it then tell them and if u think the opposite don't but my reasoning is that if u need the for like financial support I don't think its worth telling them and putting your future in jeopardy
well obviously theres something going on between you two and he knows that if he walked in on you. i would have told him "maybe you should knock next time"....haha...i bet he will from now on
Well its been a bit but things still seem to be going smoothly except for the occasional subtle reminder from my dad. I doubt I'll ever admit it but I'm going to screw around with my friend tomorrow too, just not at home.
Again, dont go assuming its direct, has anything to do with you. The anger may be as simple as he doesnt really give a fuck, but knows this means he's now going to get nagged to death by your mother: Mother: Fake nice when you are around, but when you are gone and its just her and hubby - (In a high pitched whiny voice) "Mamamamamami This is all your fault, you were too strict with him ( or not around enough) Mimimimimimimi, my poor baby he's not going to get married and have kids and end up as miserable as the rest of us blah blah blah, Do you realise how upset this makes me? Mimimimimimi Oh,I've got a headache now, we are not going to have sex this year" Father: " "Ugh, he's probably better off being a fag" Mother: "What did you say to me? Mimimimimimimimi"
^ Lol thats pretty funny, but I don't think he told her. But I told them both a long time ago it's not my abition to get married or especially not have a kid. Having a kid sounds like a nightmare and I enjoy traveling a bit too much.
