So I've been seeing this girl for the past few month's, and recently she keeps dropping little hints when shes drunk about how she thinks girls are hot, or ill joke that she's gay and shell go 'only when I'm drunk'. Also, now apparently she really wants to go to a strip club. I'm pretty sure this is all leading to her wanting to hook up with a girl, or maybe even a threesome down the road, but I'm not entirely sure how i feel about it. On the one hand its pretty hot, and if she were just a fuck friend i would be all for it, but because shes my girl i feel like some jealousy issues could arise in me. I've had bad experiances dating bi girls and swore id never do it again, but from the get go she lead me to believe she was 100% straight. So what should I do?
Well you might be wrong which could make you look silly but the best thing to do in my opinion is tell her that that would make you unhappy?
You have to give her a chance or let her go. If you let her go you will never know if she is or isn't bi or if she was the right girl for you. Straight up ask her if she is bi, tell her how you feel and that you have been down that road before and it didn't work out for you. She might just be testing you.
It depends on the person, my my ex and I broke up when I told her I was bi, but I have been with plenty of other women since and she so far is the only one that cared. Your best bet is always honesty, because with honesty, even if you do not get what you want, at least you know the truth. Ask her about her drunken tendencies and briefly explain that you were in this situation before and it did not work, but that if she is honest and open that you want to make it work (if you do). I understand the jealousy thing, so its either something your going to have to accept or move on from. With my ex, it was the same thing, in that I would drunkenly say something and she would get upset and start with "wah wah your gay bla bla bla" But I get the feeling your situation is less serious. Key points. Tell her how you feel. Ask her in a non threatening way. Decide whats best.
is she likes girls, that's a moot point. she is entitled to like what she likes however, if you aren't happy with her getting with women - that is your entitlement also. talk to her about it.
Just because she likes women doesn't mean she can go off and have an affair, it doesn't change the rules of the relationship (unless, of course, you both want to have a threesome). Look at it from another angle: maybe she is doing this for your sake. Maybe she isn't really that into girls, she just thinks you'll think it's hot (which you do, might I add). On the other hand, she might be hinting that she is in fact bisexual, and she wants you to ask about it. It takes a lot of confidence to tell someone you're bi, so maybe she wants to but only has the courage while drunk. I know that I first came out to my friends when I was drunk (I didn't drink again for months). Sort out your own feelings on it before continuing. After that the best thing to do would be to bring it up with her, but gently. Again, it takes some guts to come out, especially since your already in a relationship.
couldnt agree more with whats said here im bi and my boyfriend knows about it, hes ok with it. obviously everyones different. my boyfriend does get jealous sometimes, but who doesnt..right. whether its a man or a women it doesnt matter. hope you get to talk to her about it ..xox
If you have a bi girlfriend, even better. That doesn't mean that the expectation arises that she's going to partake in some sexual activity with other girls. I'd say an option you could consider - is to ask her about it when she's sober, to see if she: a) Remembers it b) Her thoughts on it when she's coherent and sober.
Next time she is drunk, don't joke about it, see where the conversation goes. If you stay together, it will be addressed at some time. Why wait?
