Be my Maid/Man of honor?

I am getting married and I want to ask my best friend to be my maid of honor. I'm concerned about what the correct phrasing would be. He is currently transitioning from Female to Male and is on T, but not had any surgery performed. I already refer to him as a male, but I just want to be sure on this matter. Thank you in advance for your advice.

 

If he is living as a man, ask him to be your man of honor. Saying maid might imply that you expect him to wear a dress.

 

If you already refer to him as male, and this is how he sees himself, then I think asking him to be a "maid", will probably seem very weird to him. I can see your problem, as all the traditional supporting of the bride on the day, comes from other females. (Bridesmaids, Maid of honour) I think asking him to be your man of honour is a good idea. As I think he'd rather not take any active part in that side of things, than to have to do it in a female capacity.

 

Could your friend walk you down the aisle?

 

if he's a trans man its just gona hert him to ask him to play any femail role, and if you ask him to play a male role its saying you acsept who he is , so i rilly sugest you ask him to a play the man of honor itl probably meen alot more to him than youd think