My bf and I have been dating for about 8 months and during that time he had prolly took the initiative to pleasure me only 8 times. Atleast half of these times were bc I asked him to. Hegets off everytime and im left hanging, dying for an orgasm, while he goes to sleep. But he really doesnt WANT to. He avoids it at all costs and seems kinda grossed out anytime he does. I can assure you I am not unhygeinic in anyway. Ive had plenty of guys eat me out/finger me who have even gone farth enough to say how beautiful my vagina is (haha). Im getting really sick of this but everytime I show my anger about this ti him he gets mad and acts like IM the one being mean. Do I gave theright to be mad aboutthis?
Eight months is a long time to be with someone who is at such a low level of awareness. You won't change him so how long do you want to live your life like this?
Getting mad is pointless by the way. Just evaluate the situation with as much truth as possible, figure out your best course of action, and proceed with courage.
hell no you don't have the right to be mad. you can't reward someone for doing something and then be upset that they do it. also, it's not taking the initiative if you're asked to do it. also, i still don't believe that you're not a troll.
that sucks!sex only 8 times in 8 months.thats not healthy. he probably just has a very low sexdrive.well being angry bout it wont change it.just tell him how you feel.if you care about the guy guess you'll just have to accept it.if you dont you could always find a new lover.goodluck!
WTF I checked your pics and that guy must be STOOPID if he doesn't get the urge to pleasure you. Of course you have a right to be mad, relationships are about pleasing your partner in any possible way, shape or form. Reminds me of this girlfriend I had who would only ever initiate sex by hinting or by cuddling more than usual. One day I just said to her "You know, sometimes it would be great if you just waggled your arse in my face and put my cock in your mouth." I mean, the sex was still great and all (I was involved so of course it was great) but I never acually got the pleasure of feeling desired enough to be initiated upon. And I lived with this girl. So I know how you feel, makes you feel unwanted and undesired. Don't put up with that shit. However, I would say don't get mad and upset and whiney (like my ex-girlfriend), get sexy.
I would look to end the relationship ASAP, don't waste time with someone whom is either inconsiderate, or just doesn't get. A wise woman once told me, "don't marry a man that doesn't give great oral, and give it often, if you do, you will always be looking for it".
