Would You Want to Know?

Would you want to know if someone is in love with you?
Even if you most likely don't feel the same?

What if this person were married and loved you, would you want to know?
Consider that you already have a close relationship with this person.

I just have to ask.

 

yeah, you can tell me how you feel.



no really, i am a curious person and i prefer to know things, even if they aren't necessarily good. besides, it would be flattering.

 

Hmm, nah, probably not. I've already ruined a friendship because the feels weren't mutual.
Dunno why it's got to be my fault, it's not my fault they liked me. =\

 

don't read that pm i sent you...

 

I would want to know.

 

I would want to know who wouldn't

 

yes, i would want to know...cause if u do or dont feel the same way, you ought to let the other know how you feel

 

Yeah sure, but why would you not want to know?

 

Of course you'd want to know.
If there's something there, that either you feel or that they feel - it's easier to just come out and tell them, rather than keep it trapped inside you indefinitely, and then you don't get the chance to tell them.

 

I guess I should be more specific, because, of course we'd all like to know, but this goes deeper than that.
I'm in love with my husband's friend, plain and simple. There is no consideration or reevaluation needed in that case. Aside from other complications/implications, should I tell him? I strongly believe/know that he doesn't reciprocate. Please consider that I love my husband and where I go from here affects my life.

 

I've had a few guys confess their "love" for me, especially when it leaked out that I was in a serious relationship and that marriage was in the future. I guess I really don't care one way or another, because I understand the need to get things off your chest, but it still doesn't change anything.

 

No, I wouldn't.
It'd feel like such a burden, I think.

 

shouldn't you be more concerned with how your husband would react than how his friend would?

 

Yes I am concerned about my husband, but I didn't ask about what to do about him in my original post, that's another topic completely. I'm asking if, given the circumstances, if you were the friend, would you want to know your friend's wife is in love with you?

 

If they were married I would just assume everything they said was a lie. How u get him is how u keep him

 

of course i would want to know.

 

Okay *sigh*, I confess! I love you. I can't help it, that beautiful smile, the way you hold your beer. I want to spend the rest of.........the week with you.

 

royallyscrewed, I would not tell him that. Not unless you leave your husband first and you say you love your husband too. If everything is cool with you and the husband, get over the friend and keep what you have. Everyone believe the grass is greener on the other side of the road, well darling, it's not.

 

Baby, I :love: U.

 

Should you tell him?
Well, the first thing you should know is that part of what he will hear is "I want to have sex with you". Even if you don't say it, he will hear it.
If he responds with "That's a good idea, how about tomorrow afternoon?", what are you going to say?
If your answer is "No, you misunderstood, no sex", then why tell him at all?

What will he do with the information "I love you".
OK, you love him. So what? What is he to do with that information?

Get a fake ID so the two of you can conduct a discrete affair, leaving no trace at the motel check-in?
Get a divorce/stop dating, so that the two of you can build a life together after your divorce is finalized?

If your statement to him is "I love you, but I'm not leaving my husband or having an affair with you." What is he to do with that?

Unless telling him that you love him is part of a seduction attempt on your part, all telling him will do is burden him with useless information.
"I love you, therefore love me back and pine." ????

It sounds like the declaration of your love would be more for YOUR benefit than for the benefit of either your husband or your beloved.