Lately I've been experiencing an extremely low sex drive. Personally, it's not really causing me any distress except that my wife has been complaining about how little we have sex. I'm not sure exactly what's causing the lack of drive but I think part of it might be the extreme difficulty I have getting off when I'm having sex. It seems like it will start off feeling good and then I sort of numb out like when you're too drunk and can't feel anything. I don't have a problem maintaining an erection, it just never builds to a climax. I usually just end up getting frustrated and saying fuck it or go to the point of exhaustion and then giving up. I really don't know what the problem is since I don't display any symptoms of erectile dysfunction or low testosterone levels. I'd appreciate any advice somebody could give me and would be happy to provide any further details if it would help in the giving of any advice.
I have the same problem. Like when I go in her I start to loose the mood and I start going soft, and I don't know what to do. I have a hard time climaxing when she is pleasing me or we are having sex.
I preface this post with the disclaimer: I have no pertinent knowledge of male sexual health. You said this started recently. Any other recent changes, like a medication or financial stress? Did you enjoy sex with your wife before? Is she good in bed? Do you masturbate and climax (and what are you thinking about)? I don't want answers to these questions, but you should try to find the root cause. Could be medical too.
I just wanna forget about sex for the rest of my life i dont give a fuck about all that i just wanna PARTTYY with home boyys and CHICAAS Only causes drama in life, and is wayy overhyped so im not gonna be a sheep and worry about that.
It may be the meds I am taking. Thanks for the advice ppl. I'll try to work something out in that area. There is so much shame connected that makes my wife feel awful and unattractive. I don't want this problem to ruin a good marriage.
It's important that you don't worry about it, even talk to her about that it worries you if you feel comfortable doing that. Otherwise it can spiral down, you feel nervous and unhappy about sex because it's not feeling as good, and as a result it doesn't feel as good. I had this problem for a while and it kept getting worse, but I talked to my wife and we decided to take a 2 week break from having sex and just have fun together, by the end of that I really wanted to have sex with her and it felt great again, and it's kept being good, just don't do it when you don't feel like it and if she's really horny when you aren't pleasure her, which might get you in the mood, as things get better you might start to want it more. I don't know that this will work for you because it's only my one instance, but we're back up to 4 to 10 times a week and it's good sex.
I'm not worried about erectile disfunction because even though my drive is low and I'm not exactly having the best time I still have no problem keeping it up. It seems I'm honestly starting to get bored with sex is what it seems like. Also our conflicting schedules don't help. I usually wake up ready to go if I am and she seems more inclined to fool around at night. The problem with that is she's not someone who likes to fuck in the morning and at night I'm usually completely blown out either from work or from killing myself at the gym. As far as whether or not she's a good lay, well I suppose she is. To be completely honest she's the only woman I've ever been with, so I guess I don't have much of a frame of reference. I'm also not on any medications, I rarely even take over the counter stuff.
