When people say they have an "addictive personality"

Are they just full of shit and won't admit that they just like to get high?

I've heard a lot of stories from people that blame having an addictive personality is the reasons for their substance abuse. Unless the person was already mentally ill i'm starting to think its all bullshit. Though some people do get lost, even to the point of death.

I abused Alcohol for years to a point where i poisoned myself. I've had my share of mushrooms, DMT, coke, crack, ecstasy and opiates. I don't think i have an addictive personality. I just like getting fucked up, a lot of the time i don't see how that has anything to do with being addicted. I explored and ended up drinking the most. I still wish i could get drunk everyday but i abused it and ruined it, not addicted, i enjoyed, very different.

If someone reading this post has never done drugs i'm sure they will have a different view point than someone who has done drugs, or it might be the same.

I've been told by both users and none that i have an addictive personality, of course this was just a couple of people out of a lot of drug conversations.

 

In the end, does it really matter?

despite the addictive personality theory being right or wrong. You ended up where you are today, because you are who you are.

 

it's a barrel of laughs, this concept

i have been told i have an addictive personality - because i like a drink and a smoke. maybe i do, but the audacity of the people who tell me this, and condescend me, is ridiculous

- the guy who is four stone overweight, speaking with his mouth full of mcdonalds
- the girl with the make up fixation - not even she knows what she really looks like
- lest we not forget both of whom have cheated in relationships so often they have begun to lose count

yeah, okay - i'm the only addict.

 

It's an excuse for their lack of self discipline.

 

i know that some people are born with a higher predisposition to becoming an addict or an alcoholic, its genetic runs in family etc. but as for an "addictive personality", i dont think that really means anything and it should not be used as an excuse, the psychology involved in addiction is extremely complex and should not be boiled down to having and "addictive personality" or not. More likely the reality of the situation is that the people who say that they have an "addictive personality" enjoy doing drugs, and its the drugs that are addicting.

 

i only read the first line but that is what an addictive personality is haha... someone who escapes via self regulated drug use, most likely subconsciously(if they are legit addicts).
you just eventually become self aware and learn how your subconscious likes to manipulate ur conscious

 

or is that the addicted subconscious fighting to suppress what you fear is true?
the more things upset you, the more it shows you really care.

you may like to think you are unique and misunderstood but ur just an addict


edit: solution- be more raw. say what you feel when you feel it. truly a profound revelation when you come to it

edit 2: b4 u can do solution one you have to "know thyself". understand what you are feeling then understand why you feel this. Its funny how many people don't understand themselves

 

Depends.

Often it is as you describe it.

 

i never said i wasn't an addict. what i said was is that they are my equal.

try not to patronize people.

 

People do what they do ,whether its classified as an addictive personality or just there own personality .

Both could be the same .

 

dude i see so much of myself in you
your spun
and that doesnt necessarily have to do with drug use, its your overall outlook/perspective on life.
believe me, it takes one to know one.
focus on being positive and see every person as potentially your father/brother/son or mother/sister/daughter all in one.
this means you can potentially learn from everyone(directly or indirectly, even when they aren't trying to teach you, or they give you a lesson they didn't necessarily intend to), you can potentially lean on/relate with everyone, and you can potentially teach everyone(this is done by leading by example, not being a preachy douche.. be raw and direct)
if you can successfully do these things it will make you a great man, mark my words.

you can take this as condescending or like i'm patronizing you(which im not) but there are legit words of wisdom here man. people who see something from their past in other people typically feel compelled to do something proactive :/

my 2 cents.

 

no you didnt say you wernt an addict but you said "and maybe i am" meaning you leave room for doubt.

i think u respond so viscerally to peoples attempts to open your eyes is because you know you are capable of more. dude I know how hard it is to let go of your life's pain(still working on that) but understand that at our core we are all the same, it is just our approach to achieving that which differs. once you understand this, people are SO much easier to deal with.

if you want me to spell it out, everyone wants to be loved/accepted.

p.s. "yeah- i'm the only addict"
this is totally irrelevant
you have to get these type of thoughts out of your head.. this is weakness.
you have to find your balls bro, bang on your chest.. get mad about something and do something proactive.
do you work out at all? if not start running. exercise makes and phenomenally drastic difference in one's perspective and outlook.

give yourself something to be confident about, think about things you have been wanting to accomplish and DO one of them. potential is one thing, self actualization is a completely different beast.

 

dude im sorry but this is just not very smart.
the only reason im saying anything is because i just smoked a blunt and im on 40mg hydrocodone and 15mg cyclobenzaprine.
my intent is not to make you feel insecure or less than, just speaking my mind(which is a new thing to me!)

I think you are trying really hard to say something profound here.
an addictive personality is a classification/quality of personalities, "their own" however, is not.

if someone has an addictive personality, that is their own personality.

 

i'd attempt to know a little bit about a person before beginning with the psychoanalysis.

thank you for your attempt, anyways - however off the mark it may or may not be.

 

aaaaaaaaaahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh.......

well that clears that one up :frown:

 

I believe you can do alot of drugs and never be addicted. Addiction to me implies a loss of self-control, a loss of self-awareness, a loss of health and a re-orienting of lifes purpose towards substance. You can take ALOT of drugs and still never lose self-control, self-awareness, your health, or have drugs become the purpose of your life.

Someone with an 'addictive personality' generally implies to me someone who has poor self-control, has poor awareness of who they really are and can become absorbed and lost in substance. I don't think 'addictive personality' is so much a life-long component of personality, but rather it is a component of someone who hasnt figured themselves out.

 

That takes all the fun out of it.

Ask most any modern psychiatrist. :sultan:

 

fair comment :2thumbsup:

 

then give me something, like i said.. be more raw. what better medium to open up than a place where u have complete anonymity.

when u say "i never said i wasn't an addict. what i said was is that they are my equal." this is a clear sign man.

what, you have to see someone as superior to you to learn from them?
again i go back to the concept of everyone being potentially your father/brother/son mother/sister/daughter.

i've said very similar things to you in very similar situations. again, it takes one to know one. we communicate things about ourselves with every action we make weather we want to or not.

"i'd attempt to know a little bit about a person before beginning with the psychoanalysis."
yes, sometimes things are genuinely more complex than they seem, but the vast majority of the time they are much simpler.
everyone at their core is the same man, this is important to realize.
everything we do in life(directly or indirectly ) is done to make us happy.
If you have people around you telling you that you're an addict, and if u smoke/drink often, and you respond viscerally to peoples observations then you likely have issues you are suppressing man.
that's what i'm saying.. become aware of how your subconscious manipulates your conscious.

I used poke holes in others when they poked some in me, now i try to be as aware as possible and focus on positivity.

you would be amazed how effective sending positive vibes out can be if you make a genuine effort. If you master the concept of people being your father/brother/son mother/sister/daughter, and that everyone at their core is the same, then there will be no need for effort to do so.

if you have things to say that would make what I have said irrelevant, please let me have it!
be raw, say something

 

Yeah, I'm addicted to personality.