Had a great discussion on this topic lastnight in HipChat. I'm hoping we can get some continued interchange on this topic here. I say that love at first sight exists. But then again, I'm a lover and dreamer. I'm not saying you have the type of love that your grandmother and grandfather have now, in the beginning, however I believe there can be a spark of love kendled from the very start of a relationship. When I say "first sight" my meaning is very early in the relationship. Can be days, weeks or mos. "First sight" meaning that you don't know everything about the other person, but you know there is a spark there. I wear my heart on my sleeve. That has gotten me in trouble in the past. I've fallen for others and have had my heart broken but I don't regret any of them. I like being in love. I believe in my quote below, "Someone told me there is a girl out there with love in her eyes and a flower in her hair." I'll try to contribute more later to keep the discussion going. I'd really like all of your input.
It was more like love at first hug for me. We'd been talking online for years, and intimately via texts and emails for months, and something was obviously growing. When we finally met up in person we'd been in love so long I barely looked before leaping into his arms. In that warm, finally close moment, I no longer thought this was it, I knew it. We spent the next 3 days with our faces mostly no more than a few inches apart, so we didn't even get a non-blurry look at eachother for a while. Sickening, huh?
literal love at first sight, no. lust at first sight, sure. a spark soon after meeting, of course. rather.
no, I don't think that you can actually be in love with someone you've just met, because you don't really know them yet. you have a desire and a need to love someone, and so you project your idealized romantic aspirations on to object of your affection. it's not bad to have that feeling, I think. it's just that it can be a problem when that person is different from your expectations maybe you should go to california and try to make a new start
I do, kinda. I know every time I drive through Denver by a municipal park in the summer, I fall in love every 5 seconds....
I believe in love at first sight, yes. Then again, you always think you're in love, only for something to happen, and t'is no more.
Love at first sight can be possible...it happened to my parents. I don't believe it'd ever happen to me, though, since it takes me so long to let myself love another person as it is
I think there is a very important difference between infatuation, limerence, and love. Love is a bond above all else. One that takes time and shared experience to grow. It seems to me that most people who believe in love at first sight find themselves in a lot of bad relationships.
i think it is possible, but only because love is so different for each and every one of us! i knew my partner for 6 months before we started dating, and the whole time i kept telling him very firmly "not interested, just looking for a friend." turns out thats what i found, the best friend i have ever had or hopefully will ever have. i believe its possible for 2 people to fall madly in love/lust (which can feel similar) the first time they meet, but the test of time is what builds a relationship.
