my best friend and i have a great relationship, we talk and laugh and have a great time... that is, as along as my partner is not hanging out with us. now, its nothing to do with the way he acts, or the things he says, but for some reason, when he is hanging out with us, my best friend begins to get very critical of me. she makes offhand comments about how i do everything wrong, she wont really talk to me, and i feel like she blocks me out of conversations with my partner. she even full on stares at him and watches him even when i'm trying to talk to her, though she wont reply past a nod or a shrug. now i'm kind of in an awkward situation and i'm not sure how to handle it. should i confront her about it? how should i confront her? and what the heck do i say? its been bothering me for a few months now and i don't want to ruin my friendship with her, so how do i deal with this siuation. any advice would be greatly appreciated.
Yeah, I`m sorry...I`d like to elaborate more but I am really sleepy right now. I think you`d be perfectly within your right to ask her what`s going on. And even, when she criticizes you (I don`t know the details), you can always say, "I`m sorry, I appreciate your opinion but next time I need it, I`ll ask for it." As far as feelings of jealousy toward your partner, I would talk to him or her first. Good luck.
she probably likes your boyfriend. since she's your best friend, you should give her the benefit of the doubt and ask her what the fuck her problem is before jumping to conclusions though.
it definitely sounds like she likes your boyfriend. thats awkward cuz she's your friend. but think of it this way : a real good friend would want things to be great for u and your boyfriend, so they would try to say flattering things about u to your bf. u dont deserve to suffer the fact that she tries to belittle u. thats just disrespectful. maybe she's jealous of your relationship, maybe she just needs your attention, but in the meantime she's not being nice to u. so yes, u should confront her
Yeah, She wants to fuck "your partner". Ask yourself - do you want a friend who would gladly sacrifice your relationship to hook-up with your "partner"? I know for a fact that there are people out there who will feign "friendships" with someone just to get closer to the object of their desire. Don't ever question your instincts - and don't try to rationalize them either, but if your still in doubt, arrange a scenario with your "partner" where your friend has ample opportunity to try and seduce your "partner". I guarantee your friend's motives will reveal themselves all too quickly and clearly. Tell your partner to reject your friend's advances with disgust (and to an embarrassing extent) and maybe you'll cure your friend of this underhandedness for good.
I think you need to ask your partner if he notices anything, like when your friend constantly stares at him, etc
thanks for all the advice! ^_^ i have definitely decided to talk to her about. i talked to my partner already and he said he noticed it as well, so first opportunity, i think i'm just gonna point blank ask whats going on.
Definitely talk to her, but I would avoid a confrontational attitude. Try to come from a place of wanting to understand what's going on and with the main objective being to preserve your friendship. That way, if things go badly, at least you will always know it was through no fault of yours.
