Im officially almost totally fucked

yeah, it's natural to miss someone, but if you are at a level where you really can't function without them, it tends to become a problem

if you see that in yourself though and you are managing ok now, you're probably not that codependant

 

at least you still have your health.

you still have your health, don't you?

 

For the most part, I still can't work until the 18th, but after that my hernia will be fixed. I'm still young I have a lot of opportunity. It's hard right now, I miss her. But I'm beginning to look at the positive, trying to remain optimistic. Slowly but surely doing my own thing.

 

Good to hear that you are focusing on being less dependant on her. She had some bad stuff happen to her, but so did you and then while she is prego with your get she left you in a situation where you could have lossed a lot. Dude, you didn't stab her so I don't get her making that move. To tell you she's prego and you'll get back together but she don't know when sounds sketchy to me. She could have had her Mom's support from your house, and yours too.

I dunno man, I hope it all works out but I would suggest you think about what you will do if she doesn't come back and wants you to pay her child support. Hope it gets better man.

 

she was supposed to come over and stay the night tonight its 630 and I havent heard from her, she does sleep really late and she porbably is just now eating "breakfast" and getting ready, I have a feeling she wont make it.. she still could not be pregnant, it could just be the stress, + a cheap pregnancy test. Lets hope so because I think we may be moving on.. She told me that she still needs me and is still in love with me yesterday, but I dont know anymore.. If she doesnt call tonight.

 

man i hope things get better for u. your gf is probably pretty depressed right now, so u gotta be patient too.
whatever u do, dont put your health at risk. i mean, u not having money to pay the rent, or your relationship being jeopardized, are all things that u can work on. but u need to be in good physical condition to be able to face any problems.
so take care

 

thanks so much I need all the support I can get, I turned to the booze for now, It helps, but I know its not good.

 

No, don't do that. You don't need a habit on top of what you already have on your plate. Go get some vitamin P. Do you know how many women on this planet can make you laugh and be cool and won't run out on you and be flighty like this chick.?

If I were you I would call her and say it's done. That's just me though, I think you have very good reason to cut her loose at this point. You can't seem to count on her now, you will struggle with her even if she stays with you. She's tormenting you.

Put the bottle down, comb your hair, talk to as many girls as you need to and get laid. Snap out of it.

 

she called said she was coming over. Than about ten mintues later called and said her mom was crying and family comes first, so I freaked out a bit at first and she said she would make it up to me tommorrow, I said how can I trust you when you promised you would come over today? she said if I cant take it than fuck off.. so I said "fine ill fuck off than" and she hung up on me. I just have to wait a week or so before I can leave because my gramma just sent out some money for me yesterday, so I have to wait for that, and by next weds welfare will call. Maybr ill stay in montreal, maybe ill go back to PA with my parents. one way or another shes out of my life. She still didnt get her period though :\

 

it seems a bit rash to end your relationship because she canceled and wanted to reschedule. I could understand being irritated, but I don't think that this was cause for an ultimatum.

I don't really understand, one minute you can't bear the thought of being away from her, the next you are ready to end the relationship at the drop of a hat.

I guess I can only go on what you say. If in fact you really love her and your relationship with her is worthwhile it seems like you ought to try to fix things

Maybe call her and apologize, but also ask for an apology?

 

no no no

apologize yes but never ask a girl for an apology lol...even I know thats a mistake and I suck at relationships

 

well, maybe girls don't want to apologize, but a girl that won't apologize when she's done something wrong might not be such a good person to be with, imho

so maybe he should have been more understanding and flexible, and maybe he overreacted

she shouldn't have told him to fuck off and hung up on him

 

She's toying with him. Any girl who comes from a family where Daddy is capable of stabbing her is bound to have a few issues. She's keeping him at arms length and the moment he dares to show his frustration she tells him to fuck off. He would be doin himself a favor to leave her alone.

If she does have a baby, get a paternity test bro. Chicks don't leave the baby daddy if they love them. What's the hold up with her finding out if she is prego or not? Nah this stinks from beginning to end.

I hope this doesn't turn out to be a disaster for ya man.

 

I've been saying the earth is almost totally fucked for years!

 

I have no clue.. I have the greatest urge to just leave ands start fresh.. but I fear ths just make things worse for myself..I need closure, I think I need to stay but i need to drop this girl for good.

 

I'm not trying to explain or take her actions into account when I say this-

Is it possible that you feel like you have no control in any of this and are sort of lashing out trying to get control-to get the upper hand.

-You have no control over whether she is pregnant or not.
-You're not sure what she wants to do if she is pregnant
-You're really not sure what's happening with her-where her head is. What she is thinking? How she feels about you?
-And in the end-when some of these things may have been answered-she sort of backed out on meeting?


I'm not saying whether you actions or right or wrong. Just questioning maybe what you're feeling right now.

And yea it really sucks. Really the only thing you can do-if you care about her-is give her some space right now. Give her a few days. Maybe send her a message that you bet she's real confused right now, that you are too, and when she's ready you'd really like to talk. And that maybe if we talk-we both may feel better about things.

And again I mean no offense in any way in anything that I said. And maybe I'm completely wrong here.

 

no no youre right.. Ive been running this stuff around my head so much, Im actually starting to laugh about it, Ive been saying, im leaving, im staying, so many times Im just going crazy.. I just gotta let the winds take me or something. Ive been sayng so many stupid sayngs like that too its ridiculous.. I feel like shit that I just want to laugh and die about it, and at the same time just make a leap of faith and let life take me with it, and not worry. Maybe I should talk to a psych, and get some pills. Or maybe just some weed would help. or maybe Jesus!!!!

 

maybe I will discover some great purpose from all this.. thats all I want to do is help people, starvng children in africa and all that.

 

Oh, that sounds nice.

 

seeing a therapist might be a good idea