Do I tell H about my FF desires?

Help please!

I've been married for nearly six months. In my past I had few FF experiences - in the case of one over a quite a period of time. Non of these was a romantic relationship - just about great sex!

Before we got married my H and I talked about our sexual history and he asked me if I had ever been with a girl. I told that I had on a few occasions when I was younger but that it was all part of growing up.

Anyway, I was at a conference with my work a few weeks ago and got friendly with a girl about the same age as me. After a few drinks we ended up in bed together. We slept together the next night, too (we left the next day). Again it was all about sex - nothing romantic.

Sex with my hubby is great, but I now realise that I want to continue to experience FF sex too.

Should I tell my H about what happened at the conference? How will he react? Or do I just keep my secret and find opportunities to satisfy my FF desires without him knowing?

 

There's a balance to be drawn between "what the H doesn't know about won't hurt him" and "Being honest and true" to both partner - and to oneself!
I guess if it was a one-off thing then the former, if on the other hand it has stirred up one's inner emotions, then I guess then one has to bite the bullet, and tell the truth - though be prepared for the consequences,
> Thinking of how you would react if the situation were reversed (be it MM or M(another) F)
In the end, I feel one should only go with the heart if they wish to be true to their convictions - it is a question only yourself can answer
However it turns out, Good Luck

 

i know it's animation, but i can understand FF desires...

 

I think you should be honest with him about your feelings and desires because communication and honesty are essential in a successful marriage or in any other relationship. However, before you consider telling him about your indiscretion with the other woman, you have to consider how he will react. You have to determine if you think he will be hurt by this information. If that is likely, then you should carry that yourself and not burden him with it. Lastly, and this is not meant to sound judgmental, but you need to be faithful to him. How would you feel if he slept with another woman? Infidelity isn't ok just because the genders are the same. Be faithful to him unless you both agree on what you can and cannot do in your relationship. He may or may not be ok with you experimenting with women but you should decide as a couple what can and can't happen.

 

You've only been married 6 months and you've cheated on him.

Tell him so he can get out of this disaster early and move on with his life.

 

I say if you want to continue to see other women, you need to talk with him about it. Unless you and your husband had an agreement beforehand, and it sounds like you didn't, you cheated on him, plan and simple.

 

It's cheating and you are getting over on the guy right now as it stands. The "it was just sex mindset" doesn't justify it. The fact that it was a chick makes no difference.

The poor guy took you seriously enough to marry you and 6 mos later you sleep with a chick at a business conference?

Since you are asking I think you should tell him. He will probably freak the fuck out. I would.

 

What he said. :2thumbsup:

 

h want u dead boi....

 

Thanks. He asked again last night about my previous FF experiences and I gave him a bit more detail.... It seemed to go down well! Might be a time when I could open up to him - will play it carefully.

 

Then why marry?? Keep mom and dad happy?

Then again, "H" probably asked for it.

 

Can I be the next FF desire? If your H approves....

 

I am going to tell you not to tell cause if I was ur husband ide leave u. Its not like u discussed ur desires with him u just went out and cheated behind his back

 

I hope so cuz your real nice............

Dreams will come true for you...............:love:

 

Think you're right. Thanks.

 

If you cheated on him this quick into your marriage, it won't likely last anyway, so do whatever you want. Obviously you're going to anyway.

 

I think he definitely enjoys hearing about your FF experiences, so much so that I think he'd be willing to let you partake of them again, as long as he's part of the action. That may be why he asked. Do you like the idea of a threesome with your husband and another woman, with everyone getting a turn at being double-teamed by the other two people? I think your husband would probably definitely enjoy that. Most men, if offered a FFM threesome by their wife or girlfriend, would willingly do it. After all, most of men are real horndogs, LOL!

 

If you think your marriage has any future, you should tell. Otherwise, you're lying to both yourself and your husband.

He will probably freak out. I would. I would also leave you. Cheating is cheating; would you be fine with him having sex with another man behind your back?

 

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