This is fucked. I can't stop being friendzoned.

Stop it, you're embarrassing me :drummer:

 

C'mon Cherea! I have Hughesnet and have already passed my quota of por...I mean youtube videos and now I'm movin to slow to see the vid.

 

Alright, so since posting youtube vids has fallen out of favor, I have a question for the board:

Is calling a girl who`s looking at you over and telling her you find her attractive and would like to spend the night with her (or, alternatively, get a cup of tea @ Starbucks) being an "asshole"?

BTW, I`m not saying that doing that "works", if you know what I mean. That`s what I try to do when I`m interested in a chick, but I don`t feel entitled to getting into her panties (no matter how ugly the bitch is! ).

 

Yep that's perfect, it's ballzy, funny and slightly insulting. All the ingredients are there.

 

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i just speak to one girl, then another

and the one i'm attracted to will become jealous, i get an ego boost and the women pushes for me and not the other way around.

i have a two female friends who help me do this. i've known them for years and it is platonic.

it's not really asshole behaviour just good use of a wing man - or in my case wing woman.

 

great technique

 

well thats a much better way of putting it. i mean, its completely normal that guys feel that it's unfair that girls always pick the dickheads. and yea, they end up acting like dickheads themselves so they can finally get the girls.
yes, seducing someone means u gotta be a lil aggressive, but it doesnt mean u have to consider them as idiots.

no, and it does work. that's what i meant when i said that the OP has to express clearly and straightforwardly what he wants to the women he meets. if u try to become their friends first u're going nowhere.

 

i was maybe a bit harsh - but pray tell

what do you call a girl who is actually impressed by this sort of behavior?

a bit daft at least?

 

:2thumbsup:

 

ok then. well, if the behavior u're talking about is when a guy hits on a girl in a straightforward way, making it perfectly clear that he wants to hook up, then i dont find it particularly stupid of the girl to actually like the boldness.
personally i like it when men tell me directly what they want from me, i dont think that makes me dumb. besides most guys do just want to sleep with girls, they have enough male friends.

 

Hold the phone...what do you mean about "this sort of behavior"? I was just giving an hypothetical example of a situation in which I express my desires clearly.

Is this stuff about labeling someone who`s upfront an "asshole" stemming from a bad opinion of sex after all is said and done?

 

Wtf does friendzoned mean? Did you just make that word up to sound cool?

 

I've never understood this problem, if I'm honest, once I've got to know a girl and spent some time with her, I've been known just to say, "we should hook up! "

The winking smiley really sells it. Its a bit awkward holding up your lap top to their faces to show off the emoticon, but its worth it in the long run.

Side note: I agree with everything Crayola has said.

 

boldness? sure. but i talking about the guys who act like tools - some guy last night kept calling me a queer and the girls he was with found it very funny.

somebody's getting laid...

this is hardly intelligent :mickey:

 

When you are attracted to someone and what to be in a relationship with them/or want to have sexual intercourse with them but they only see you as a friend and do not want anything more than that.

That's the friendzone my friend, don't get caught in it.

 

no. i guess i am disillusioned with women - the ones who date the high school bully let's say.

 

I havnt a clue ,but i like the picture :2thumbsup:

 

Ok. That`s different.

Aren`t you afraid of success, though?

I am just as afraid of rejection as anyone else, but I feel in my case it is compounded by the fact that I am dependency-phobic...and therefore also afraid of not being rejected and having to date and marry.

I often avoid women who seem to be into me because, I think, I "guess" that they would want to control me.

It`s hard for me to say whether that comes from a deep-rooted pretension that women are clingy and overbearing, or whether I am actually picking up legitimate red flags in their behavior and should trust my intuition...

 

hahaha... seriously that could work

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yea thats just moronic behavior (from both the guy and the girls). i see where u're coming from, it sucks that some @ssholes do get the girls sometimes. however, there are smart and attractive girls everywhere, u just gotta open your eyes and stop chasing the ones who end up with the high school bully.

that also makes me think of the Ladder Theory.
according to that theory, men view women like this :

and women view men like this :

(when u're in the abyss, it means u're nowhere, the person doesnt even see u anymore)
"The first thing to notice here is that a woman has not one ,but two ladders. (...)The friends ladder is where a woman puts guys that she considers "just friends". More to the point where she puts guys who don't get to have sex with her.
The problem arises because a woman never lets a guy know which ladder he is on. (...) All a man can do is "go for it" and make a move on a girl; ask her out, try to kiss her, write her a love note or whatever. If he's on the good ladder fine. If he is on the friends ladder the man can try to jump the gap from the friends ladder to the real ladder. The girl has two choices at this point: she can let him on the ladder and all is well, or, more likely, she can kick him in the head, and off the ladder. (...) So the man falls into the Abyss. The Abyss isn't really as bad as it sounds. Mostly it's a period of self-loathing, embarrassment, and of course utter awkwardness with the girl in question if they are talking at all."