Lets talk about mind games we play. I don't believe a true and lasting relationship can survive built on mind games. I don't like those that play mind games in a relationship, apparently to just fuck with your mind. I recently had a girl tell me she liked me, A LOT. More than once. We talked and when I returned the feelings she seemed to have toward me, she dumped me and doesn't want to have anything to do with me. wtf? It appears she was just fucking with my head. What about you and your relationship?
Well, that sucks man. What I do is protect myself from hurt by setting boundaries while, at the same time, showing active interest in people. First, I still need to focus mostly on myself even if I engage in relationships. I'd rather hang out as friends, and take days off even though I may feel like seeing someone every single minute of every day. I also obey the principle of reciprocity. If I take a step toward you, I expect you to take a step toward me if we`re going to be friends. Finally, if someone sends me mixed signals or disrespects me, I might give them a second chance if I feel like it, but on the 3rd strike, you`re out. :biggrin: @OP: Are you not suspicious of people who idolize you?
I just do what Switzerland does: Maintain neutrality. Makes relationships very safe but hella boring.
I have had relationships like that. I thought they cared about me and truly did return those feelings. I found out in the end that they were just playing games with me. I will give someone a second chance if I feel that they deserve it. Now if they have really hurt me in the past then no. But if we ended the relationship on good terms and the feelings resurfaced then sure, I would give them a second chance. That really sucks that happened to you Riff. Best of luck to you.
mind games are wrong.they mess with peoples minds and emotions.i think people that play them probably have warped minds themselves.treat others as you would have them treat you.dont let no mindgame players mess with your mind an soul.people can only do those things if they are let.dont let them.
My relationship is pretty open and honest. And though she's not always as upfront as I'd like; there's definitely no game playing. I wouldn't put up with the type of person to play head games, and don't see myself being very attracted to them in any sense but physical. (though I don't know if that'd be as true if I was single =P) I have a friend that plays games sometimes. I hate him whenever he's like that.
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I don't believe in mind games. I'm not necessarily "open" in my relationship as much as he'd probably like, but I never play games with his emotions...I lay my cards on the table with how I am and I am getting better with communication. I notice that a lot of women like to play mind games. They are all in it for the hunt and when they get what they want, they bail.
My past 2 relationships were full of mind games, from both of us, but there are none with me and my current boyfriend. It's a nice change, I hate mindgames.
Excuse me but define "mindgames". I think that is the wrong name for the strange and sometimes negative ways that people communicate in relationships. What does anyone even mean when they say mindgames? Have you asked yourself what you mean when you say it? (that question is rhetoric)
When you aren't straight up about things, send misleading signals for some specific reason, or when you follow certain rules (social or self-made) for your expectations of the other person. Mindgame is quite a perfect title, as it fucks with the other person and to them it is as if you are playing a childish game with them, rather than being an adult and communicating properly. I understand it was a rhetorical question by the way (in case you mistake my response for being inappropriate); I just had to respond to your nonsensical thought.
I've never been "fucked with" by any mind games... Maybe that's because mind games do not exist in my mind? From the first paragraph of your post I glean that mindgames means anything that you could potentially do wrong in a relationship?!!?!!?!? The person is not playing mindgames, they are communicating to you in their own special language! Rather than a person attempt to understand the language, they would rather see it as a negative and spiteful action, aimed to hurt them in some way. When in actual fact they have chosen to be hurt by it, probably because they don't understand it.
No. Just those three things I listed. Maybe a couple I missed too. You're just being contrary and I refuse to participate.
This kind of proves my point, someone like you would easily make themselves a victim of a "mindgame" because you've just assumed that I'm playing one with you, when in fact I am not. I expressed what in my view is how "mindgames" come to be, a viewpoint which I had formed before you told me I had a nonsensical thought. It may have been contrary to your opinion but I did not conjure it up for the sake of being contrary. Or did I? Am I playing mind games with you? Hahahaha no, I'm not. Or am I? To play mind games with somebody else, they would have to participate in the "game". Is it possible for people to play mind games by themselves? With themselves? And here's a thought: Do positive mind games exist? Is a good relationship really just two people playing positive mind games with each other?
I didn't assume i was playing with you at all. I deduced you are talking completely out of your ass. Look at this from my perspective a second: I tell three specific scenarios; you decide that any situation would fit under those three scenarios (which I totally don't see how). Then, you say that those three scenarios are a person communicating in their own way -- completely ignoring that those three ways are a way to avoid straight, honest communication. Now, before this you say that you need mindgames defined for you, because you just see it as "strange and negative ways of communication"; yet, you say absolutely nothing to back up this, nor say anything to explain how my examples can fit any scenario (which is ludicrous) or how my examples are "just a way of communication", when one of my examples "when you follow certain rules (social or self-made) for your expectations of the other person." involves no communication whatsoever -- but expecting someone to fit an invisible, unspoken standard. Your argument makes no sense to me, and is full of incompletely explain, or poorly communicated though. Yet, I wouldn't call it mind games I would just call it being meaninglessly contrary, or arguing out your ass (as I already have). I would say positive mind games exist. Such as puzzling philosophical debates, or those running jokes where you try to outfox each other, or when two mind-game players meet and mostly enjoy the games they play with each other, or chess..
