Problems with a girl I'm seeing

So ugh I don't really talk about this but here goes. I meet this girl and she invites me over for dinner the other night. Afterwards we started to hit it off. Let's just say my man part wasn't getting erected AT ALL. It was embarrassing the thing wouldn't ... launch off at all I mean it would but it would just go back down. Though I managed to give her an orgasm with other body parts so that's probably the only reason why she wanted to see me which brings me to this. Last night THE SAME THING happened I would go up then down up then down it was frustrating so I decided again to just give her pleasure I managed to give her 2 orgasms this time around. She felt bad which is not a good sign so she tried getting it up with her hands for awhile then she just said screw it and tried with her you know mouth.... orally.. And so after like an hour and half we finally go to the shower and try something their. She gives me a hand job and FINALLY (I don't know if it was the hot water or what) but I managed to get it erected.

And for some reason I can't manage to get it to go in. I'm like wtf? And then I went limp again. So all that work and nothing for me.

I'm not gay. I'm only 20 years old. I can you know do it on my own. So I'm not really sure what the problem is. So yea I need some serious help if this girl already hasn't lost interest.

 

have you had sex before?

 

First rule out a medical cause.

Then get to the mental.

 

No. I don't think she suspects that though. lol

 

oh. well there ya go. Beginner's stage fright.

I would suggest telling her...or if not her, then the next girl you attempt to do it with. It will put you more at ease if you don't have to pretend that you know what you're doing.

 

Tell her you used to be a woman, and the operation isn't 100%

It's just for show, in other words. She might dig it.

Or you can insert a bic pen in your urethra.

 

I was asking for serious help. While it was a good laugh (I do have a sense of humor) I don't think that would go over well lol.

Maybe I should invest in viagra never thought I would say that since I don't have erectile dysfunction it would just get me hard to get the job done lol. Yea bad idea. Never mind.

 

Its probably cuz u're too excited/stressed about doing it for the first time.
If the girl "loses interest" after two unfortunate attempts, and u giving her orgasms otherwise, then she just doesnt deserve u.
And yea viagra is a bad idea, no sane doctor will prescribe it to a 20yo who had trouble getting it up twice. Viagra is serious medication, dont take it for the fun of it.

Basically u dont have a problem.

 

ayee

 

You go limp from stagefright? =0
I thought it was when ya couldn't pee next to someone >.<

 

how much porn do you watch?

 

Hey I was just joshin ya. I'd agree with the others. You are just stressed. You weren't drunk, or on opiates at the time were you? Because both of those can cause problems getting it up. From what I hear (Wink wink)

 

Meh, I have had the occasional trouble. If it works normally, then try to calm down during the act to relax or masturbate less.

 

Well I went over her house last night again. Needless to say it didn't work again. Though I did manage to get her off again. After that she passed out cold. I guess I managed to redeem myself. But still no pleasure for me just all her 3 times in a row now....... I don't know I guess I'll have to resort to asking a doctor... That's gonna be awkward. I don't wanna just walk in and ask some stranger "Hey ugh my penis cannot stay erect therefore i cannot have intercourse can you help me out please?"

lol thanks for all the responses

 

Hi!
Trust me, You don't have a problem. A lot of guys has the same in a beginning. Especially if You watch a lot of porn and do it by yourself often. The best You can do right now is just to tell the girl, that this is Your first time. Just try to be relaxed and think that this is a pleasure, not responsibility. But remember - it will happen again, but don't be worry. The more often You try it, the better it will be

 

I'm getting into the routine of posting updates like I'm doing a twitter or something and considering the subject seems a little weird. So this is my final post on this thread. Last night I managed to actually stay up to have intercourse with her. Though the really bad news more like sad is I only lasted 5 minutes. What really erked me was after she said "that was good". Which sends a big red flag to me that she's just being nice. Which is kind of a turn off.

Because I know that it takes me 10-15( i just pulled that outta my ass I don't know how long.. not like I have a stopwatch) minutes to get her off. So I dunno.. I can do calculus but I don't think I will ever understand what I'm wanting to understand. Any ways that's all I gotta leave for class in a few to take a test.

edit: quick question you guys / gals keep saying I should tell her I'm a virgin exactly how am I supposed to work that into a conversation exactly? Even if I manage to work it into a conversation perfectly I got a gut feeling it's gonna be umm (it's too early in the morning for the lack of a better word) regretting I guess...

 

OP, I would suggest cutting back, or perhaps even stop for a little while, on masturbating. If you are not very sexually active, and the only action you have been getting is from your hand, you can get to the point where only masturbation will get you off.

You could try masturbating in front of her (mutual masturbation also works), or offer to stroke your dick while she uses her mouth or hands to help. Audience participation can be fun, and it might help you get to the point where something other than your hand stimulates you enough to maintain an erection.

Don't stress it, because that only makes it worse. Play around, try different things, and hopefully soon you will be able to fully enjoy intercourse with your partner.

 

I don't think that was a good tip for someone who is just starting his sex life, you know?

And as for the question, how can you tell her that you're a virgin. Truly, I think she already knows. If she's not stupid.

 

My bf had sex once before he met me, and we had this problem for a chunk of the times we first had sex. But now he keeps it up. I would chalk it up to inexperience.