Children with dreads... ?

I kind of agree about letting them get older so they can decide for themselves (and really decide for themselves, not just think they are).

However the point about looking like parents are neglecting their kids sucks. I don't disagree that it will come across that way, just that it's wrong, (imo) which comes back pretty much how dreads are seen in society in general (to those that aren't in the know), and as it's a child the flak is going to be waay worse. So yeah, I'm sitting on the fence I think, but if it was my child I think I'd wait till they were a bit older. And thereby contradicting myself and upholding stupid values, yes...

 

It's true though. Society's all gonna be like "you're clearly too lazy to brush your kids hair so you're clearly lazy as a parent." "your kid looks like it has lice, so the other mothers and I are going to make your kid feel like an outcast by not attending parties and certainly not inviting your kid to any of our parties/playdates." unfortunately, this is what will happen. I just feel that parents owe it to their kids to give them an easy childhood as possible because adulthood is shit.

 

I understand the bit about giving children an easy childhood sort of. I grew up without a television in the house, and I remember being really embarrassed about that amongst school friends, when I was young (7,8,9). Looking back though I'm not sure it was really that bad at all. If I ever have kids I want them to grow up not being a sheep and be able to think a bit for themselves, (not sure growing dreads has anything to do with that though )

Also, being an adult isn't all that bad

 

What I'm saying is, you don't want to have a child ostracised so young, it's damaging. Children aren't an extension of you, they're their own person and unfortunately, most are destined to be sheep. You can st the wheels in motion by encouraging them to think for themselves and that's all you can do. I do belive that the younger you try and encourage individualism with dreads and what not the more likely they will rebel and become a sheep with materialistic desires that will consume them.

 

You may be right, then again I'm a fucking weirdo these days

 

Hahaha, me too, me too. But Fucking weird is fun!

 

I wouldnt do it for the look, but I have to comb out dreads of her hair EVERY day, often 2 times a day! and she has to sit still and she really doesnt like it.. and they actually dont look neglected they kinda look perfect..

so I should rather let her have messy uncombable hair (like this http://www.allurearlington.com/wp/w...ages/slideshow/00001 messy hair sebastion.jpg) then "make" her have dreads (that would look like these: http://dn0ogew6jnq2k.cloudfront.net/1/22853081_gI5G55yW_b.jpg)

?

 

Loreal kids is your friend.

 

Dupe

 

loreal kids? Im not using soap on a little child

 

That's child abuse. Clean your goddamn kid.

 

:lurk5:

 

the fuck is wrong with you!!
you NEVER put soap on a one year old!! just ask doctors!!
srsly! THE FUCK IS WRONG WITH YOU!!

 

QUOTED FOR TRUTH...



Cheers Glen.

 

if you use soap on babys it will cause their skin to be drier and it can cause exem and other skin disorders. I have a friend who was washed regularly with soap when she was a baby and she is at the hospital because of exem on her head and all of her hair is falling off.. doctors link it to the early use of soap .. her sister is really worried (she could be next...)

you only use water and once in a while a little oil.

 

I think the problem here is your attitude, Miss Teen Mom.

 

yes, her hair is dreading because I have an attitude problem and only want the best for my child that makes perfect sense.

 

Have You Decided To Go Ahead, Or Still Thinking About It....??



Cheers Glen.

 

Im still thinking about it
Im gonna try and remember to take a photo tomorrow and use that as a before photo
and Im thinking about trying for atleast a week, then I can comb it out if I must

 

Wow, just lost a lot of respect after that little quip.

To the OP, ultimately it's your decision as she is your child and it depends how you want to raise her. She may get a harder time of it if you let her hair dread and that could go one of two ways, she'll either hate the dreads and want them gone, or she'll be strong about it and realise how unique and beautiful they make her among her peers.

As for the soap thing, I'm with you. Warm water is all that's needed when they're that young. I don't want to use chemicals on my skin so why on earth would I put them onto my child?