Should I flirt with a guy that has a gf? :(

I am really into this guy, he is cute funny and we are friends and stuff. But then one of my friends told me he was having something with another girl (sucks ) and that they just started being together and shit.

But I can't just stop liking him! Should I try to flirt or something? Should I tell him? I mean.. I dont know what to do!
And if I should flirt, how can I do it without making it obvious?!

 

You want to flirt with this guy to show you are interested, but do it in a way so he doesnt realise, thus doesnt find out you are interested?

Sounds like a foolproof plan

 

It's a free world. Do what you want! Do you think you love him? If you don't then I'd play it safe and wait for someone else. If you love him then you haven't really got much choice.

 

By all means, flirt with him. That will give you insight into how loyal he will be if/when he is your BF. Not only will it give you useful information, but it sounds like you'll have fun while gathering data.

 

What I meant was that when I flirt I can make he think I'm interested but not sure about that... ok yeah it does sounds like a foolproof plan. :afro:


@MikeE Well he actually just started dating (not really dating, is just like... being together) so I dont know he is kinda "vunerable"

@Marchfool I dont know if I am in love with him (probably not) but I really want him, like REALLY haha

 

Let me rephrase my point.
If he responds to your flirting, what have you gained? A guy who responds to flirting from non-girlfriends.

If he cheats (to whatever degree this is "cheating")...
If he cheats with you, he will also cheat on you.

 

great point mikee.

To the OP, I think you should make sure and ask if he's dating someone, you heard from your friend but not from him, ask him in a way that do not make it obvious that you like him.

 

Not cool i wouldn't flirt with him but then again i'm funny that way like i said before i'm very jealous and play for keeps

 

if you got with this guy how would you like it if girls wanted to flirt with him?

 

if theyre still new its perfectly fine to try

if they been going out for a while exclusively then thats not fine but it would of course be up to him whether he cheats or not

 

i'm confused. are you friends, or do you genuinely like him?

 

my two penn'orth-let him know he's attractive to you. No more.

If that attraction is two-way,he'll drop his 'just started dating' girl to be your fella.
If it's one-way,you'll know where you stand.
If he wants you 'on the side'.......euwwww.

Whichever way-you'll find out if he's got any decency.

 

there's nothing to stop you.

but what are you expecting out of it? him to break up with his girlfriend to date you?

and then what happens when some other girl starts flirting with him? you actually think it would be different and he wouldn't leave YOU like he left his other girlfriend before dating you?

I'd have to say don't...because nothing good is likely to come of it...and if the girl he's dating now get's wind of it you could be deliberately causing problems for them..which is just plain shitty and makes YOU trash. And do you really want to date some idiot who you can't trust not to leave you when some new girl starts flirting with him while dating you?

 

Yes tell him you like him but don;t be surprised if drama arises.

 

okay, to make things clear, i am friends with him already for a long time, but not like... CLOSE friends and stuff, I can say we are good friends.
And you are right, it is better not to flirt but I cant! Everytime I see him its like, my heart is jumping out of my chest. The thing between that other girl is not like they are dating and stuff, is just like... beginning of something which I hope won't last!

 

Why do people always want what they can't have?

 

yes.

 

morality, like art

means drawing a line someplace???

 

because its a challenge:2thumbsup:

 

Back to the OP....

Well, ethically, it's a bad idea. If the GF finds out, and she likely will (something about women, then can tell when another woman might be giving them competition), you could be looking at a fight.

So why not save yourself the trouble and flirt with single studs like myself? No GF, no problem! :daisy: