Hi there, I am 25, I jerk off quite some, and I have intercourse sometimes (I am single, opportunity for intercourse comes mostly from causal encounters but that does not happen that often). Anyway, here's the thing: I never have trouble to cum when my hand is doing it. I love it. It feels great and everything. With an actual girl, foreplay is sooooo better, playing with her [insert erogeneous female body part] and everything. Gives me the boner of my life everytime. Her giving me oral is great but it is mostly the mantal part, I mean, the excitation is so much bigger thinking that it is a female mouth wrapping your penis trying to please you. Nut the *actual* feeling is mostly just "okay" and actually, without a perfect flawless BJ technique I can start losing my boner a bit. With vag' intercourse, it is mostly the same thing: while the feeling is absolutely incredible at first: that warm wetness "designed" to receive penises, with that parfect "ergonomy".. that's fantastic. But after a few in-outs, the pleasure comes more from seeing the [insert female body part shaking during intercourse] shaking, watching the pleasure in your partner's eyes and so on... And here again, boner goes down after a while and it is tough to ever end up cumming without the help of my hand at all. Which sucks, because the few times I managed to do it in there was so much better than a hand, feeling that aforementionned wet and warm tight wetness accompany the spasms of orgasm... And to avoid the un-pleasant aforementionned things from occuring and manage to achieve the best possible sex, the only way I found was total abstinence for a couple of weeks ( ! ) which then would lead for usual people to flash-quick orgasm but for me it only leads to "being able to do it at all to the end". I tried medical-help (blue pills), it helps keeping the boner on. But that is pretty much it, thery don't help to achieve orgasm (which makes sense, since they are mostly designed to delay it). And to those who will say that it is great, that at least I last long, no it is not great, it is not great to be inside a girl and her asking what is wrong because the dick is shrinking inside her... So looking up the internet, it looks like what I have been experiencing is a known thing and that it is called Death Grip Syndrom. Is it, according to your knowledge, compliant with the description of my condition? or am I imagining similarities that do not exist?? Also, what is (if any?) the solution the get rid of this syndrom? Finally, among the initial thoughts I had had before discovering that DGS concept. I though of the fact that I am un-circumsized so hand-wanking involves moving skin along penis. Whereas intercourse (especially when protected) involves rubbing penis against vagina so the stimuli are different whereas circumsized wankers wank the same way they fuck if I may speak that way.... Thank you very much.
I have a similar problem, involving retarded orgasm during sex with a partner (self masturbation doesn't seem to be affected), but this is due to a recognised side effect of the medication I'm on for epilepsy. The same side effects are also known to result from other neural medication, such as antidepressants as well as cardiac medication, such as beta blockers. Curiously enough, Viagra was initially produced as a cardiac medication, which didn't have much success with its intended purpose - it was the famous erectile side effect that made it the name it now is, but even then it has no effect on reaching actual orgasm.
Thanks for your testimony! While I am still not sure whether it reallyh is DGS I suffer, I still tey to do something about it. I stopped completely jacking with my hand (6 days of abstinence now) and will try to cum in a Fleshlight when I reach 9 or 10 days without enjoying the sweet yet roughs pleasures of orgasm. Anyway, I am starting after these 6 days to get more and more frequent boners, less and less justified. To be perfectly honest, I miss jacking, but I do want my sensitivity. Anyone here who managed to overcome DGS? how long did it take? Thank you!
