Friendly, or more than...

Discussion in 'Relationships' started by Michael1985, Aug 30, 2011.

  1. Michael1985

    Michael1985 Lifetime Supporter Lifetime Supporter

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    Her name is Kathleen. I work with her at a Safeway grocery store. Anyway, the story starts about six months ago, even though she and I have worked there much longer than that. I was up in the lunch room before my shift started. Kathleen was talking to a female cashier named Sage. Somehow, the subject turned to my Facebook profile picture, and Sage was talking about how she liked it. Kathleen said she had not seen it. I don’t recall exactly what happened next, but I remember saying that I did not have all my coworkers on FB. Kathleen then cried out “ You don’t have ME, Michael! You don’t have me! I thought that was kinda odd that she would bring that up.

    Not much happened after that until recently. Kathleen has been a fair bit more friendly with me lately. First, she and I were alone in the break room, and she initiated a conversation about academia, given how we were both students. Last week, the same thing happened, but this time, she was on a cell phone, so she got off her phone as soon as possible before making a point of apologizing for being on the phone the whole time, as if she had wanted to talk to me.

    So we did talk for a few minutes, and she discussed missing quite a few Big Brother episodes. She said she had been downloading torrents to catch up. I actually hate Big Brother, but because I knew that one of the Canadian TV stations had a link on its website with full episodes, I posted it on her FB wall, as I had added her by this time. I know what a pain torrents can be sometimes, so I wanted to help her out. It took her about five seconds to reply and thank me for that link. Later, I was using my status to ponder about acquiring claim forms for health and dental reimbursement, and it didn't take Kathleen long to give me the info I needed.

    And last night, I got off at work at nine. Kathleen was not working, but she was in the store talking to various people about things, so rather unprompted, she offered me a ride home. This was nothing she had ever done before, and she never asked if I had other arrangements. I took it, so as not to have to endure a half hour for the bus. She and I chatted about school again on the way home.

    I am not going to ask what her motives are, but my question is whether I should be wondering about this at all. Do I have grounds for believing she is being more than friendly? I have to bear in mind that I actually have no clue what her relationship status is. I’m sorry if you’ve seen a very thread to this before. I do tend to analyze other people’s behaviour a lot.
     
  2. TheGhost

    TheGhost Auuhhhhmm ...

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    Only if you want it to go somewhere. If not just give the poor girl the cold shoulder.


    From what you write, yes .... and her relationship status has NOTHING to do with that.


    Maybe too much so ..... sometimes more action is required. :D
     
  3. necriavite

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    i think you should be going with your gut here. definitely sounds like she likes you. past that i am always a fan of blunt honesty, though be prepared. if you give total honesty, your sure to get it as well.
     
  4. la Principessa

    la Principessa Member since '08

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    He kind of sounds like he's not interested. Is she a dog? I say don't read into it too much just yet.
     
  5. Michael1985

    Michael1985 Lifetime Supporter Lifetime Supporter

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    Well it did not take long for things to go back to normal, and Kathleen and I rarely see much of each other at work. She's got a crazy school schedule, and I'm just barely getting ny work hours at all. As far as I'm concerned, the matter is closed.
     
  6. la Principessa

    la Principessa Member since '08

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    Oh well, there are other fish in the store. lol
     
  7. Humperdink

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    Somehow the earth has gone from 2 people, presumably, to over 6 billion. I wonder how that happened. Here for instance, we have a reasonably intelligent male who somehow has gone to college and yet still thinks it is normal for people to be able to read each others mind. So I will clarify.

    "SHE CANNOT READ YOUR MIND, NO MATTER HOW HARD YOU THINK."

    In order for her to know you are intersted in dating her, you will actually have to tell her. Now in order to do this, you can walk up to her at any time and say "Hi, nice to see you again. I think you're a nice girl, and would like to invite you out to dinner sometime to get to know you better." It really is that simple.

    Ah, I get it. You fear rejection. Well, I can tell you the chances of her saying "Yes" is actually pretty high. And if she does say "No", you will at least have an answer to your question. And there's always the next girl.
     
  8. I'minmyunderwear

    I'minmyunderwear Newbie

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    that's how friendship starts. relationships these days all start with drunk sex.
     

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