ok so i have been seeing this girl now for about a month and have not been able to make her cum i'm starting to get worried she may not sick around that long if things are all one sided she has only been sexually active from the start of this year and only masturbating for the last 14 months problem is the way she gets off is with her undies on and a teddy bear i'm finding it really hard to recreate this tried my leg using my hand on her undies is near impossible because i'm flying blind and if i try to do it the conventional way no undies using my fingers she gets too sore before i can make her orgasm any input would be greatly appreciated as i'm all out of ideas
try your tongue - she shouldn't get sore then if you use plenty of saliva. Stick at it - if she has not long been sexually active then at first she may take time to get to orgasm but she might also get in 69 - and that may also push her over the edge Simon :sunny:
Sometimes it can take a long time for a girl to become comfortable enough to let go and orgasm...just keep at it! And remember try not to treat orgasming as the "final goal"...that can put subconscious pressure on her...just enjoy the ride!
Could that not make him feel some subconscious pressure as well? Seriously-this is like the 3rd time I've read it today that the woman having an orgasm is not the "end all" What if she never has one during sex play (any variety) but can achieve them on her own. I would think the guy would start feeling some extra pressure. Also since we are here-can the female REALLY still fully enjoy sex with that partner. Someone said they had a fantastic weekend of sex, but later revealed she never achieved an orgasm the entire time. I guess what I am asking is-say this girl is out with her closest female friend and they start discussing their current sex lives. Would she tell her friend that her sex life is great, never been better, OR would she say it is great except for no orgasms. I just have a difficult time believing that she would continue to have fun and desire sex all the time if she knew she would not have an orgasm?
I think most women do not have a problem with this but others such as myself find it too sensitive to have direct contact with 'the bean'... I find rubbing around it or just above it works a treat... Do ask her what she likes - my ex made me cum because I told him that it's too sensitive and how to satisy me whereas before him nobody else managed to make me cum... Hope this helps!
I've been with a girl that was too sensitive for me to really get her off directly, we had a lot of fun masturbating together. I could feel and suck her breasts and stuff and stroke near her pussy. Eventually she even started to not only allow but want me in her mouth while she did it. Later she got to the point where when she came she started to take it deep in her throat. We would often have sex afterward and over time she began to orgasm more easily from that too. I don't know that it will go this well with you, but it takes the pressure off and gives you a chance to have pleasure together.
