OK, I read an article the other day about guys who think they can get a woman into bed by insulting her. The article suggested that guys who do this aren't likely to succeed: Science of Relationships - - - Negging: Do Women Really Like Guys Who Treat Them LikeCrap? However, I see guys try and pull this all of the time, and some have even tried to pull it on me! I think I'm smart enough (and respect myself enough) not to fall for something like that, but does this really work on other women? Guys--have you tried this, and does it work? Ladies--have guys tried this on you? How did you respond?
Sure, but here`s what they won`t tell you: guys do the same. Stuck up bitches finish first. That being said, there is a happy medium between a douche and a doormat. And we all know what that happy medium is: the living room.
Proper response. Women also do this. I think that in every relationship there is always someone who is more into it, it isn't a guy thing or a girl thing And yes being rude does impress a lot of people, but that is no more pathetic than lots of being nice stuff It probably does impress good looking women more than other people but that is because most of the time they get people being nice to them because they are hot. It's the same as how treating someone who isn't good looking as good looking impresses them because it doesn't happen much
Younger women may like assholes because it provides constant drama in their lives, but once women get older they start looking for qualities they value in a permanent mate - kindness, consideration, stability. Same goes for guys. They date stuck up bitches when they're young but get sick of the drama as they get into their later twenties.
I need to be with a man who is a slightly bigger asshole than me. I'm a sarcastic bitch with a hot temper. Most guys either fall to their knees with tears and sympathy, or want to knock me across the room. I complain a lot about my boyfriend being rude, a constant interrupter, and he just doesn't think about other people's feelings. He also won't kiss my ass once he's been a jerk. And as much as I say I'd like him to... there's a certain appeal to know he won't blow smoke up my ass. When he's genuinely sorry, he says so. When he's not rolling his eyes at my daily dramas, he's an incredibly nice guy. He never yells at me. He makes me laugh and sends me funny emails and messages all day long from work. He takes me places, buys good beer, smokes great pot with me, listens to the music I like, cooks for me and compliments me daily. He never "treats me bad" per se, but he isn't a whimpering fool either. He's the only guy who has ever perfected that balance and I'm gonna marry that dude. I can't speak for all girls, but I know I won't put up with being abused (in any way) or be neglected. I also won't put up with a doormat. Real chicks (and guys cuz this goes both ways... I know tons of pretty bitches who treat good guys like shit) know this.
why do people always automatically assume that every woman has ta be a bitch on the inside, just cos she looks beautiful on the outside.cant women be beautiful inside and out.
that's rare, and its the truth most women who are assume to be beautiful on the outside are bitches. But however there are some who are sweet, but thats rare from where I live.
And do you know how many guys get dumped for being "too nice", which is ridiculous I almost got dumped for being to nice, she wanted me to be more aggressive.
you said almost!so what ya do?i hope ya did'nt stop bein' nice ta fit inta her plans. i get called a rare gem a lot.i've just realised now what a compliment that is.be yourself,if people dont like ya the way ya are,their not even worth the headspace.but ya, i've seen that too,in some men an women.they appear beautiful on the outside but are different inside.but thats usually down ta egocentric shallowness and vanity.it dont leave much room for soul.but not all women an men are like that.
what exactly was "too nice" about you? I'm curious. I don't think guys can be too nice. I think they can be too sensitive, too insecure, too agreeable, too clingy and the like. For me, manners and thoughtfulness don't turn me away. It's the feeling I have to protect poor nice boys from the world (and myself) so they don't get jaded that turns me off.
One time, We use to work together, and we both do theatre , during a rehearsal she walked away out of frustration and I ran after her and grab her by her arm to push her closer to me, then after that she told me that she like when "i'm aggressive like that", which that's not me. Basically by being too nice, i gave her compliments, say Good Morning etc, did everything you suppose to do in a relationship to show your partner that you care, but I guess she taught I was being too nice, when i was just showing her that I care, but she wasn't the smartest girl anyways I learn my lesson to never date a girl only because of her looks
I have found that most women prefer a challenge, they will pick the bad boy over the good guy cause they think they can change the bad boy, mold him into someone else and feel like they are looked up at by other females who think the same way....Or I could have completely misread my inner instincts.....;-D
You can never ask anyone to self assess. They'll just say stuff that makes them look good and not admit the stuff that makes them look bad. If you survey a bunch of women asking them does guys treating them like crap work, its not like they are going to admit that anyway And its not direct anyway, if the guy is hot or wealthy they are more likely to put up with additional crap because of it. It can be indirect, do bad boys get the chics cos they are bad?, or because arsehole comes off a little more masculine. Do the nice guys get dumped early on becuase they are nice, or cos he's steady and stable the gals know there will be too much competition when he wants to settle and they think they are too skanky? Everyone gets crankier and bitchier as they get older, you simply dont have the energy you had when you were a teen to try all that hard or give a stuff. And its all circular, run around try being nice to everyone, and get slightly more popular that way, then you end up having a whole bunch of people bitchy at you because you are a little more popular for being so nice. Run around trying to pretend you are a good person, with a high moral fibre content, everyone else is going to think you are a wanker for believing you are better than everyone else No one really gets to win
yup. A guy can be nice to me all day long, and at the end of the day if I don't want anything to do with him its because he was up my butt all day, got insecure because I hang out with guys, didn't have an opinion for himself, couldn't take a little shit talking in good fun...etc, etc. It has nothing to do with him being caring and kind. so then technically you were being nice because you thought she was hot and not because you actually cared, yes?
I was referring to the fact that she wasn't smart anyways, and I won't date a girl thats all looks and no brains
Pffft, girls are the same, you pay far more attention to the guys where its a like a tractor beam in the eyes, then go home lock the bedroom door and reload the batteries