Why are all guys like this?

I couldn't agree more. OP seems to think she is 'giving guys a chance' as if she has some inherent value that trumps the notion of equality in a dating paradigm. It is quite common among modern day women in western culture to have this attitude and it is, quite simply, man repellant.

OP: Hon, maybe you're just NOT that special. As someone pointed out, there's billions of women in this world. You may want to ask yourself what it is that you have to offer to a man of character and substance that will entice him to pursue a relationship with you...At the very least, I do hope that you are learning about the dynamics of personal relationships from your experiences more than you are using them to justify this simplistic point of view that you seem to have.

Best of luck.

 

+ 62 :d

 

No sweetie all guys are not like that. College however is probaly the worst place to meet people for a serious relationship. You have young girls and guys full of hormones out of the house for the first time. They now have a job, school load, and a lot of stress....so more often than not all they want is sex. Just look around though.....see if there are any groups you can join so you can make friends first and find guys who want to date.

 

You seem to have assumed vanity and confidence behind that vanity.

Thread is titled 'Why are all guys like this' and we read on to discover its a grand total of 2 guys. Most likely thread is just to make herself feel better, yah two guys just wanted me for my body, I'm not a total plain jane.

She's not the girl complaining about dozens of guys, or every guy in high school just wanting her for her body.

In the horny high school years, most guys are too scared to even talk to the hottest girls, and those that arent are given a chance even if its just for attention or get them to do things for them.

The simplistic line sounds a bit snotty, I think you are attacking someone more insecure than you thought

 

it's true. so much worse than strip clubs, bordellos, prison, etc...

 

There are both guys and girls out there that will take and never give. You give what you want. As trust builds, you can give more. NO ALL GUYS ARE NOT LIKE THAT!! Some of us very much prefer to give more than get. Respect in a relationship is earned and you should give it as you get it. The more respect you get, the more you give. The more of themselves they give the more you give. It is and should be mutual.

 

God I remember when I was in high school - I fell in love so hard. There was one girl I would have married in an instant - of course, she didn't want to get tied down before college. It happened a couple of times. You know I came on too strong - I wanted a SERIOUS relationship. Well it happened too many times and I started to resent the hell out of women. I was getting conflicting messages - I had a lot of female friends and they'd talk about how all men just wanted to fuck em and fuck around on em and here I was stupidly wanting to get married and devote my life to some girl, but if I got too serious she'd invariably end up pushing me away.

Well I understand all of that now, but I'm telling you what I felt was real - not some goofy teenage crush. So in college, I just stopped dating altogether and focused on music and academics - I thought, well I'll do well in school and get a good job - position myself as a provider - and then maybe find someone to get serious with and possibly marry. The problem is, I got really comfortable being single and monkish.

I dated some after college - got into a few more "serious" relationships, but that strong love and desire never came back. I couldn't bring myself to give myself over completely - maybe it was the scars of those high school rejections, but I think it had more to do with this distrust I had developed of my own perception of women. In either case, that feeling just wasn't there anymore. I think I have a more lucid and realistic understanding of women now, but I just can't fall in love like I used too - I wish I could - I've tried and I've broken a couple hearts trying. I don't try much now - it doesn't seem fair, really. I'm sure I'm not the only one who feels this way. But, hey, there are more noble pursuits in life than getting married and having 2.5 kids and I'm content with where I'm at. So I guess my answer to you is - "no, not all guys are like this", but you probably wouldn't be attracted to the ones that "aren't like this" in the first place.

 

i heard college is where most people meet their husbands/wives...

 

sex is a natural activity desired by both sexes, why women think there sexual organs are "the prize" is beyond me, if u want to be a prude so be it, I hear the Convent is hiring,

 

Do you think you may be unwittingly contributing to it by playing the sensitive boyfriend card?

Oh, I`ve been with my sweetheart for 4 years. If it works for you, great. But you seem to be putting yourself above the guys who fucked the OP (assuming she is not a troll, which he is).

So why are women entitled to possessing men just because they`ve had sex with them again?? Refresh my memory.

 

It`s complicated. Obviously, men suck up to women and play along.

I suspect there`s something seriously homoerotic about the trophy pink pussy you marry and show off to your male friends, as opposed to the readily available pussy which guys are liable to reject on a regular basis.

 

I would just caution you, while you're trying to figure out the way life works so are the other people around you. If you thought high school guys go crazy, let me tell you they have nothing on college guys. The first couple of years on college people are trying to figure out who they are and what they want. Most people let you know what they're after and let you know it the first couple times you talk to them so you gotta learn to read people. On population alone 2 people is not enough to make a judgment on all men. A lot of guys think with their small head but the thing is a lot of girls are happy with that and don't really expect anything more. If you want more look for more, talk to more than one people, give different people a chance(that doesnt mean hook up with them but get to know them intellectually) and then make a choice.

 

I don't know if this is true for you-but could it be the type of guys that you are attracted to?

 

It could be. The first guy I was with wasn't a great guy, and the second one was kind, but if you pissed him off he'd get really mad. So maybe it is the kind of guys I'm attracted to.

 

assholes are easy to meet. that is part of the problem

 

I would kind of assume the OP is a pretty good looking girl, and was dating handsome men. The scene she describes is typical for the #8 - #10 looking girls and boys. The boys know they look good enough to get any woman in the crowd and just use her for sex. In reality, you are better off getting a boy that is in the #5 or below range. He will most likely be smart, attentive, loving, and caring, enjoying you for your character and not just your body. Wealthy men and handsome men are not the type of men who think highly of women. Instead, all they want is anal sex.

 

Guys are wired to want sex. However, that does not mean that there can't be a lot more involved in the mix of a relationship than just sex. 19, 20, 21 - guys start to sort out some of the hormonal relationships and learn that there is more - much more, than sex. Be patient. Accept that guys are overwhelmed by the desire for sex - but sex as the primary motivation for a relationship will become more balanced.
Don't give up on guys because of sexual matters - draw your lines and let nature take it's course. Guys are just as capable of real relationships as women are. Give them a chance and LOVE will find a way.

 

Yes! There are plenty more "fish in the sea." Don't make assumptions based on a couple of bad experiences. Just get out there and try some more and don't give it up to the first guy who comes along!

 

Good start, just need to account for the minors, retirees, married men over 40, the obese, the below avg. looking, the homeless, the behind-bars, etc.

So given the OP's college age and setting, her pool of a potential mate "for life" is really less than a hundred (if she stayed in her home state).

 

From the OP you said that you 'gave it up' to them as if you didn't want to have sex with them. If you don't want to have sex with them don't

simples