How to look gay (MERGED)

For my mum's christmas present I'm getting photos taken of me and my siblings (4 in all) because we're all getting harder and harder to track down and get together (in february only one of us will still live in the region). Anyway. We wanted to dress each of us up as people totally opposite to who we actually are, (or if that's too hard just overexagerrate who we are) and my sister is not only gay but in about every gay club/supportgroup/charity there is. She also hates wearing dresses and skirts, she's not butch or anything like that, but she just likes to dress plainly, "like a russian peasant", she says, and I'd like to incorporate that as well. So I was wondering if you guys had any ideas on how we could totally stereotype her as anti-/ completely not gay, or extremely, totally, flamboyantly gay.

 

Dress her as a gay man?

Failing that, plaid lumberjack shirt, sunglasses, deerstalker hat. Possibly a cigar. Instant drag king. Only really works if she's a big girl.

 

Yes. Plaid shirt, blue jeans, trucker hat, steel-toed boots, short haircut or wig.

Or combat boots, white wife-beater, and bluejeans.

 

Dungareeeeees!!!

 

*looks in closet* ummm... birkenstocks, ani d tshirt and a fanny pack. and something rainbow. or for opposite, she could wear a cute little peasant top and some hip huggers. aw.

 

Faded Jeans
Large, Blue Flannel Shirt
Birkenstocks
Power Tools

 

Pool cue, lesbos love pool.

 

This is fun

 

hehe my sister the lumberjack!!!

lesbos love pool? o..k

She's tiny by the way, I think she's like 150cm (4'8) tall..maybe we should dye her hair purple or something? I really wanted to make her wear a skirt! brilliant ideas, if I can work out how my computer works then I might be able to post a picture

 

to add...

baseball cap
baggy jeans
ani teeshirt for sure, preferably under a long-sleeved tee
flannel, or just a nice collar shirt
hiking boots or birks

yay!

 

Alright, so all of us here are aware at the fact that homosexuality is very sterotypical towards the general society...

For gay men, they are considered to be flambuoyant, flamy, and feminine.

For lesbians, they are sterotypically perceived as butch and tomboys.

Do you define yourself under these stereotypes? HOW do you define yourself? And, what kind of people spark your interests for a relationship or intimacy?

As for me, I've got my "homo moments," as others say, such as possessing a minor case of limp-wrist disease, considering that I use a lot of hand gestures when I speak.
However, all in all, I really don't fit the stereotype...I dress like most straight guys, wearing heavy clothes and T-shirts, my appearance isn't girlish, my delivery isn't girlish, and my interests are quite neutral...

And as for people to spark my interests, I have an attraction towards guys who have a great sense of humor, yet possess insightful and sentimental qualities for any bond or relationship...I like guys who are always comfortable and content to be with you, who wouldn't mind getting warm and cozy with you by cuddling...
Sexually, I seem to be more interested with guys who have dark hair, a bit of a tan, and appear to look more masculine on the outside...

But all in all, you can't underestimate love and affection, either...

 

You bring up a number of points and concerns that seem to interest and/or plague many of us. Appearance and character are--hopefully--two separate aspects of the person. My appearance is actually pretty genetic to that of my family. I may have a little extra poundage around the belly, but other than that the physical me is not extraordinary. I don't have an unusual bounce in my gait or swish in my step. My clothing is far from the fashion plate of the firmament; I shop at OUT OF THE CLOSET and other thrift stores and pretty much dress in season (no big woop in southern California). I don't wear shorts or expose my elbows and my appearance is actually fairly modest. I'm somewhat hippie inasmuch as I have tie dyed garments.

As for character, I seek people who are friendly and humorous. I'm selective about the humor I put up with. Some people can be nasty in their playfulness. That doesn't wash with me. I actually crave more friendships than I have allowed over the years. When you don't have an army of friends and you loose touch with the ones who are near and dear, it becomes quite difficult to replace them. Can you ever really REPLACE a friend?

I communicate best with gay men, followed by straight women. Next in line are lesbians and lastly are straight men. Truth be told, I have very little in common with most straight men. The younger ones in my classroom situation are interested in pussy, cars and computer components. I'll leave it at that.

 

i hate sexuality based stereotypes.

 

I don't define myself by my sexual orientation (which is concidered 'bisexual').

I'm a burnout who's stuck in the early 90's with the revival of hippies, birth of real burnout popularity, college radio music nerds, NYDM brutal metal sceners, heroin-esque grunge style, and whatever else.

I'm pretty "strait" I guess as far as apperance and my personality goes.

 

i can totally relate to that. i guess by most standards i'm bi, but that doesn't mean i act or dress differently or adhere to a specific stereotype.

 

I am in dress the same as I am in personality... I dress how I feel and that tends to generally be "alternative" (meaning non-mainstream). I don't fit in with the mainstream in my likes and dislikes and that expresses itself in how I dress.
Besides, i don't think there's a particularly "bisexual" way to dress.

 

Lots of bi folk.

Hmm... I have an idea for a thread that might bring up some good discussion

 

I think everybody has gay moments, even people who aren't gay. It's just that people tend to notice those gay moments more when you are gay. I am not as flamboyant or flamy as the stereotype, but I'm not way stomping butch either. I just am who I am and leave it at that; I don't try to be one way or the other and tire quickly of men who try to see how butch they can be. Similarly, really girly girls bore me silly.

 

My girlfriend and I are both very feminine, in appearance and mannerisms. We are both bi, although I think we are really gay and like boys on the side.

Althought there is no butch/fem roles as such, in the bedroom my gf takes control, is the dominant one. She disiplines me and in general leads the sexual play, position, oral, dildos, anal, etc.

If the two of us are involved with a boy/boys, we are both usually submissive to them.

In school, unless they knew we are bi/gay (which they do now) they would never guess from our mannerisms or dress.

 

It's odd how most people really do believe the gay stereotypes, yet I've never met a gay/bi person that was like that...


It's because of shit like Real World, every queer they ever have on there is the most flamboyant womanly man they can possibly find.


If all the black and latino roles on TV were still drug lords and ignoramuses, people would still believe that too.