Why does virginity matter?

Virginity just determines whether a person has had sex or not. I'm not saying that sex is not a big deal. I'm saying that the person who had sex is still the same before and after the action. A person's virginity itself has no physical impact in them.

Additionally, it is practically impossible to tell whether a person has had sex or not (unless you're part of the act). So really, the way I see it, virginity has no effect on the person.

Lastly, as long as a person has no STDs or any sexual problems like that, and they don't cheat, I don't see how their virginity matters.

 

It's an old institution in stories, history, and religion. That's carried on to this day even though it's a shadow of itself.

I guess it only matters if you listen to the canon.

I lost my virginity with a girl that lost hers as well. It was cool in a sense, but also awkward. It'd suck to have "awkward" hanging over memories of your honeymoon.

 

It matters because if you're not a virgin, having sex is not as big of a transition to make as it would be if you have never done it before. It makes a huge impact on a relationship, especially if your first time is really bad because it can possibly spoil the relationship. And then there's also the matter of feeling inadequate compared to your significant other for having had more experience. It makes one wonder how they are in bed. There's a lot of emotional issues tied into this.

Even if you're a confident person, I find it hard to believe that the majority of virgins that have had sex, didn't feel awkward at all during the experience. It does matter. It's mostly emotional, not so much physical. I mean, if you're a girl and were plowed by an entire football team in high school, it would be different than having a virgin's tight vaginal walls, but a couple partners..not so much.

 

Virginity made no difference to me whatsoever. I think I was born experienced...erm, a slut. :biggrin:

 

I believe that.

 

that is why I hold my own definition of virginity

 

What could it possibly be? You've either had sexual intercourse or you haven't.

 

Without going into specifics, I would classify three different categories of losing my virginity. Two of them, I cant precisely remember when or who with

But didnt really matter to me, first big crush was the thing that floored me, thats a fond memory

 

This thread reminds me of pornstar/hooker Carol Miranda, who became a born-again virgin and shot three anal scenes under the rationale that she was saving herself for marriage.

Eventually, though, they offered her enough money for the pussy. Which...if you think about it, is completely backward. :juggle:

 

Ok ... so far, so good.

How do you know that? Generally speaking generalizations don't always work. Anything you do (or anything that is done to you) can change you.

As far as physical impact goes, that may be true for men. You do know what a hymen is, I guess?

Same mistake again. Men = women is NOT a correct equation. Hymens DO exist.

Wut?


As for what (I think) you intended to ask:
Virginity (for women) matters because they used to be sold (in some parts of the world they still are) into marriage. Damaged goods are hard to sell.

 

I've never been with a virgin and it does bother me sometimes. In retrospect I'm pretty sure I had a few chances to in college but was still a virgin myself at the time and clueless.

I think it bothers me because I have this idea that a woman losing her virginity is a big moment in their life that they never forget and I will never be part of one of those moments.

My wife had had very little sexual experience before meeting me. She specifically told me she had had intercourse 12 times, but with 6 different partners and was never in a relationship before me. She has said that she never knew what good sex was until she was with me. So, in a way that is close but unfortunately once during a conversation years ago she mentioned that she lost her virginity to a black man and that his penis was huge, so much so that it 'split the sides of her mouth' when she tried sucking it. Sadly I have never forgotten that visual even though it was an offhand comment from 15 years ago.

Maybe this is all a hangup, we have a great marriage and sex life. From what I inferred she was more jealous of the fact that I had been in serious relationships before meeting her (including a brief marriage). I think the fact that I had been in love before bothered her more than the fact that I had had sex thousands of times before meeting her. Now that we have been together 15 years she doesn't seem to be affected by that, but since she knew I had lived with my 1st girlfriend for 9 years I think she was pretty happy when we got to 10, in some way validating our relationship.

I don't think about my prior sexual partners unless prompted to and with the exception of this one tall, attractive blonde with monumentally large breasts that I only had sex with once wouldn't sleep with any of them again even if I had a risk free opportunity.

Now at my age and marital status I don't think about virginity or relationships very often but it used to matter to me much more than now.

 

Exactly.

 

the volcano gods can tell...

are there a lot of virgins out there who have had sex?

 

I just lay there so I still consider myself a virgin

 

I have always believed since a long time that it is because men have fears about the size of their penises. They want a virgin because they believe that she will never know if he is small or not and therefore not know what she might be missing. I never found penis size to be a factor in sexual pleasure.

The day before I decided to loose my viriginty my parents and the others we lived with had a celebration of becoming a woman for me.

 

Uuuuughh ....

 

you realize that the woman will know as soon as she sees another penis... which she probably has seen plenty of by the time she has sex anyway...

not to mention the fact that men really don't care all that much about the status of their partner's virginity.

 

apart from giving birth to a saviour or something.

 

There is probably some truth to that. When a man is fairly new to sex and get naked in front of a woman the thought definitely occurs: does my cock look small to her? I know I did. And when you are inside you're thinking? What does my cock feel like inside her? Has she felt a whole different dimension of penetration with someone else?

One of my three long term sex partners always claimed I was the biggest she had ever had, but for whatever reason I was skeptical. At the time I was young and thin and when erect was 7 3/4" and very thick but thought that was just a little bigger than average. I knew she had had several partners before me but who knows? Maybe I was. Neither of my other two long term sex partners ever made that claim and in fact I did ask and found out I was not the biggest they had been with.

I just think that the male ego is so caught up in being the best. We want to be the best athlete, biggest money maker, the funniest guy at the parties, the guy who can tolerate the most hot sauce, the owner of the fastest car, the guy who can handle his liquor the best and definitely the best in bed, so it is natural that we would want to believe that a woman would chose us to be their first sex partner.

Thank God I have moved past all that. I am middle aged, have a wife, a home, 2 kids and a decent job and I really don't care what other people think about me. I know there are lots of younger men who can fuck more, drink more, eat more and who could beat the shit out of me in a fight.

My sex life aside from my wife exists only as porn driven masturbatory fantasies and being with a virgin or virgins definitely is one of those.

 

I like this post. when I lost my virginity I told my mom and she made a big deal about it. but it wasn't. I didn't lose my virginity someone special, and he lasted about 1 minute,and it does not influence the way I am as a person. and It doesn't matter