I haven't had anal, but it is something me and my boyfriend would like to try... I have so many questions that have never been answered so hopefully I can get them answered here... Are you suppose to use lube? A condom? We have attempted it before, and his penis didn't even go in, it was just pushing against my rim and it hurt so much that I cried... I've heard from other girls that they have cried for ages after full blown anal... How can I make anal more pleasurable for me for my first time... And is it better than sex...? I'd really appreciate some advice and experience stories Thanks!
Yes and the more the better Only if you want to, we don't. Those other girls didn't do it right and it was most likely forced on in a way. Why they cry....... The guy most likely just kept pushing ignoring her but anyways............ You need to relax that's the 1st thing. It is why he couldn't get in sorta speak you were to nervous. I think you should start with a toy 1st and build up from there. Doggie would be the best to start as well. Your partner needs to learn to go slow that's the key, little bit at a time and you'll get there. Is it better then sex..... well it's different, the little bit of pain and pleasure I mean I enjoy it.
Doggie makes it a bit deep for a 1st time... With a gf who didn't do it before we tried her lying o the belly, me on top, and moving very slowly, when she was pushing her ass up I was going back almost at the same time. Almost... each time she had a very slight stimulation, very slight penetration... And after a while, I was in her... very smooth, she got an orgasm!!!:2thumbsup:
What about face to face, like for regular penetration, but her legs on the shoulders of the guy to facilitate anal? It's a good one because close to a classic position.....
You probably want to use lube, yes. It is not necessary 100% of the time because that area does get natural lubrication, and you can always use your own sexy juices/saliva as lube, but especially in the beginning your first times lube is going to make it happen. Don't use too much though or you'll remove TOO much friction and it'll just be messy and wet Well are you using the condom to prevent STIs or to prevent shit-on-dick? If you're in a monogamous relationship and trust each other then I assume you're considering it for the cleanliness issue. Well I can tell you that if you just don't have anal sex when you feel like pooping then it's going to be quite clean. I've had it 50+ times and there was really only one time where it was necessary to clean up, the other times it ranges from clean enough to eat off of, to just a little odor/stain. Trust me it's a lot scarier/grosser in your mind, once you actually get to doing it you won't be so bothered once you see how clean you are and how not big a deal a tiny bit of poop is when you're doing something so fun and naughty and intimate. Just like how you usually need foreplay around the vagina to have vaginal sex, you're going to need anal foreplay. He's gotta at the least use his fingers and slowly work you open. Your anus has a voluntary muscle that you can relax to help him enter you, but it also has an involuntary muscle that will only relax if you gently tease it to relax. He should rub/lick around there and slowly slide 1-2 fingers in and gently work you open, before attempting the main event. The trick is patience! My gf was not thrilled with the idea and it was painfully difficult in the beginning but we stuck through it and now she will grab my cock and shove it up her ass without any lube on occassion because of how turned on she is by it. And she gets really good orgasms from combination me inside her bum and vibrator, they are so hot. In terms of positions, as others have said doggy style allows it to go deeper, which you may want to avoid in the beginning. Missionary is really great, and he can see your whole face and body so he can tell when hes doing it right and when he's doing it wrong. Just go slooowwwww, no rush. Best of luck to you, it's like an art form
In my personal experience I've never found lube to be necessary when having Anal Sex with a female partner, as this has alway followed Vaginal Sex, and the natural vaginal lubricants have always sufficed. As for position, I have always had major difficulty with the Doggy Position, both as penetrator & pentratee. I always find basic Missionary, with legs hooked over the penetrator's shoulders to be the most practical. Finally, I would add that if you are not using a condom then you should never follow Anal Sex with Vaginal Sex without thoroughly washing the penis first, as this can transfer some very nasty bacterial infections. If you are using a condom always change the condom before re-entering the vagina. It may take the spontaneity out of it all, but it's definitely worth it.
Well duh! OF COURSE you should use lubricant! you're gonna have a hard time SLIDING him inside of you if you don't use lubricant... same with vaginal intercourse - the more dryer you are the harder it's gonna be for him to enter, no wonder it's painful for you! As far as condoms go you could try using them if you are not quite used to the whole idea. As a girl receiving, I would use a condom first time round scene as I dont like the idea of his penis getting all .. icky. But take PineMan's advice in terms of condom usage as well. In all honesty I don't favour anal sex and it's not something me and my partner find pleasurable, but it's all about trying new things I guess, just be careful with it, there are precautions in which can help make it less painful or less you know... dirty.
