I am a 29 yr old woman with a very high libido, if I could get it daily I would be satisfied, but be happy with it more! The problem is I always seem to want t more than my partners. I was in a very long relationship and it ended up being the deal breaker because my ex had almost no libido whatsoever. My new partner is much better but I still feel a little resentful and sulky if he isn't up for it. I do not initiate it apart from encouragement and flirting etc because I'm scared of rejection and I'm paranoid I will put too much pressure on him because he knows how much I like sex. Sometimes he even does foreplay but then will just stop! Drives me crazy.... I know he finds me attractive etc etc, I just wish I didn't want it so much. I used to be really proud of being in touch with my sexuality and thought it was healthy but now I worry there is something wrong with me. I do masturbate quite often (or when my boyfriend isn't there) and that helps but I still just can't get enough. Does anyone know how to lower your sex drive or 'turn it off'? Any other thoughts? Finding someone who also has a high sex drive would probably be a good solution but harder said than done.
Its been my observation, and I'm speaking as a third party observer here, you chics worry too much about appearnce and project everything on to that. I'm sure you know at least one couple where neither of which is attractive, but they are still banging their brains out. Then if at least one cares more about fucking than looks, there is undoubtedly more The straight guys all say the same thing, not so much about looks, more about all the associated drama or trying to latch on. You said yourself you get sulky if you dont get enough. But add to that, what they dont admit too is performance anxiety As for inhibiting libido, only drugs really, but not a good road to go down Really, why just one boyfriend? especially if its just going to keep you cranky Whats the real source of fear of rejection? Is it really anything about your appearance or that its going to make you crush more on a guy. Being paranoid about their performance is just your instincts anyway, if they are going to run away then they arent up to the job in the first place Does it have to be about fucking? Does it always have to be a guy? Face your fear head on, that fear of rejection. Its irrelevant anyway, theres a half dozen reasons before its about you; they are too stressed over work, worried about performance, too whipped by another chic, too lazy, assume you just want to latch on to their credit card, assume you just want babies. You need to learn how to actually hit on a guy. Dont do the stupid hard to get routine. Dont act like a stripper and wiggle the boobs or bend over if front of them. Do it like its a hot summer day, hair over your shoulder, hand around your neck and across the top of your chest, sultry in the eyes, like if you dont get fucked soon you are going to start playing with yourself right in front of him. Sure some will run away, but the ones left standing are up for the job. Give him your number, "Text me if you wanna fuck my brains out sometime, dont worry, no strings" Either that or just stay home, bake muffins and make sure the bathroom is spotlessly clean
Maybe you could start there .... If the mountain doesn't come to the prophet .... No good .... Tell him I said that! :sunny:
I haven't really dated much because I was in an 8 yr relationship which ended last year and I actually really like my new boyfriend. It's kind of a hard 'prerequisite' in meeting people? It's not all about the sex, everything else needs to be good too which it is, just these two fantastic guys I have dated have not matched up to my libido. Thanks everyone for your comments.
I would consider trying an open relationship, although finding guys who are ok with that could be real difficult. I'm in an open relationship just now, because my current partner suggested it, as he was afraid of exclusive commitment. I'd never tried it before and was always a bit wary but now its happening I love it and wouldn't change it for anything - its the best of both worlds, love and sex.
