To me this is a very delicate subject because I want to be sure of my own status. I'm not sure what all the signs are or details to look at with a magnafieng glass. I love women in every way a straight man usually does. However I find myself attracted to men once in a while...or perhaps a little more often than I'd like to admit. Then I catch myself appreciating some things that the usual straight man doesn't, or doesn't admit to. Like hair for example, esp womens hair. If they have a good head of hair I feel slightly jealous and I feel the need to compliment them. Sexual undertones and alternate meanings are not necessarily present during these sorts of compliments. I can tell an "okay" man apart from a really good looking one. Occasionally I find myself almost infatuated with a man. One time in particular (the very first time), I had to avoid him because I didn't understand what I was feeling and I didn't want him or anybody else to catch on. One thing I am not sure about is intimacy with a man. For the most part I am not attracted to the male genitalia and I'm not sure about the body and what I like? I know I like the face, hair and esp I'm turned on (whether male or female) if I am impressed with the way they have dressed. Back to intimacy though, I've never so much as kissed a guy. I don't find myself all that interested in doing so...then again I'm not turned off by the idea either. So what am I, bi? Am I just a man who can tell you whether another man is hot or not? I do know that I am not gay because of the way that I feel towards women. Any ideas, suggestions?
im one of the few who's lucky to have figured out my orientation in nursery. went to an all girls catholic school, found some boys cute but i was only truly attracted to girls. never kissed a boy, its not that i couldnt have, or i wasnt curious, its just...i really really didnt want to. i tried to kiss a cute guy once, but leaning in for that peck on the lips felt like same pole magnets pushing on each other. prior to that experience, i already knew i was totally gay, but this just proved, finalized, sealed any minute possible questions. oh yes, i can still tell a good looking guy from an average one, but that doesnt make me bi or straight. i think you need to have that first kiss just to tell for sure. ive kissed a lot of straight girls who had similar questions as you and they all had their answer after that one kiss.
it could be that you're bi. if you're really unsure just explore stuff with guys and see where it takes you. if nothing else, it will tell you where you stand. the hair thing has nothing to do with it. do you think only gay guys can appreciate good hair on a person? and for your information, most heterosexual guys can tell if another guy is good-looking or not, they just don't brag about spotting the difference cause they're afraid to look gay to their macho buddies. and it's just not something guys do. and if it's just that, just you realizing some guys are good-looking, then that doesn't make you any different from any other guy. if it is unconscious attraction you feel for other guys that is something that pertains to sexuality.
i knew i was gay way before i ever kissed another guy. and i didn't need to kiss any girls either to confirm it. i just always knew. which is why it always seems strange to me how some people can't figure themselves out on that. but people are different i guess.
well yeah I'm quite sure that I do feel attraction. I've tried to ignore it in the past but I've come to the point where I'm tired of denying my attraction to men. I want to find out whether my attraction can be more than physical.
I totally get that. You've just always known what you felt and what you've wanted. I dunno, for me, it seems I'm a late bloomer in many ways. First time I had sex wasn't until I was 19. The only reason that I did it was because my gf wanted to. I didn't really enjoy it that much, though I didn't have any complaints either. It was about 4-5 years later that I actually started to enjoy intimacy and intercourse. It was a long time before I found any interest in dating, sex, intimacy etc. Of course that is all different nowadays.
It sounds to me like you're bicurious. You should have a go at experimenting with guys, you never know where it may take you.. If you struggle to find guys locally you could always turn to the internet.. there's no shame in it.
