My wife likes girls and shes unsure is shes gay. NEED HONEST ADVICE.

Long story short, my wife confessed after i confronted her about having an emotional relationship with a lesbian friend of ours that she thinks some girls are really pretty and they make her feel special. She swears nothing physical happened but that it woke dormant feelings inside. Evidently, she had them before. Naturally, she asked for time to sort her feelings and search her soul.
She tells me she does love me but that our recent troubles make this a real issue that needs to be dealt with. I agree but needless to say, im terrified of losing my wife. I love her dearly.
She needs time alone to figure out if these feelings are too big to ignore. She's afraid of staying with me and having it be a lie and obviously so am I.

Its been a week and we've talked on the phone and in person plenty. We've cried. We've laughed. Held each other and even flirted. None of it felt forced or ingenious. That's why she tells me not to doubt her feelings for me but what is she supposed to do with those other feelings?

Am I doing the right thing by staying so close and fighting for the woman I love or should I give her the time she's asking for? Is there a chance our marriage can survive this?

 

the way I see it its a win win win situation.

if shes a lesbian and she leaves you because of it you should support her, and you should be happy knowing she's happy. and the bright side of it is at least she wouldn't be leaving you for another man.

if she's not a lesbian and she was just confused then your marriage can go on and you can grow closer knowing that you made it through the confusion.

or maybe shes bisexual. a lot of guys would be happy about that....

 

Hey maybe you should invite her and her friend to bed with you so she can decide what she wants more.... The way I see it WIN WIN!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

Well, of course, its the first scenario that scares me. This is so new, its still so surreal. Im so scared of losing her, be it to a man or a woman. Her happiness is important but I just can't let go of the feeling that we can still be happy together. I just don't want to keep pressing and bug her.

I honestly don't feel she's confused. I think she does like girls just not to what extent. She told me she doesn't look at them sexually. They just comfort her. Admittedly, a comfort I was failing to give her.

She may be bi. Because when she does show me affection, as recently as two days ago, it feels real. Im looking for the opportunity to show her how real it really is before its too late.

But do you think there's TOO much talking going on when this is all so fresh?! Should I really fall back and give her that time? Maybe a chance to miss me a bit? Or should I keep courting her just not as often?

Should I just act as if she's already gone so when the time comes, ill be prepared for any outcome?

Talk about the ultimate wakeup call.

 

She jokingly said that she felt thats what i was looking for. She swore that would never happen seeing how shes not physically attracted to girls and even if she was, what makes me think Id be int the picture? So i dropped it ha