Going for a girl who is 5 years my senior

So there's this girl who is 25 and I am 20. She has initiated contact with me a few times, and a couple times when we she has to leave a conversation online, she has been keen to continue it, saying something like, "Here is my number, give me a buzz sometime," and then the other day she asked to hang. She's going to drive like an hour and a half to visit me on Friday. So these all seem like indicators of interest, but her being 25 makes this all unfamiliar territory. Like, I'm thinking that in the world of a 25 year old, those things might be innocuous and she just wants to be friends. Could something be up? I have enjoyed good success with the ladies lately, and I'm really not used to it. Hahaha.

 

when I was 20, my gf was 25.. Kinda sucked later when my younger more attractive gf returned home. Had to make a decision which heart to break.. almost gave myself a heart attack keeping them both secret from each other..

 

Well I don't have a younger girlfriend. And this girl is hotter than the other girls I'm playing at the moment. So I don't have to worry about that!

 

age doesn't matter much at all, 25-year-old girls play the same exact games as 20-year-old girls. that said, at any age i would not expect someone to drive 1.5 hours just to "hang" with you unless you guys had been close friends for a while, so if this is a recent meeting i seriously doubt she would go to all that trouble to be friends. plus, you mentioned that you've been having luck with women lately, and since no girl is willing to initiate with a single guy, this also bodes well for your chances.

 

I'm failing to see why 5 years would make any difference whatsoever.

 

My boyfriend is 4 years older than me
My dad is 11 years older than my mom
My uncle tom is 13 years older than my aunt margaret
>.>

 

I suppose, as a sweeping generalisation, 20-25 is often an important time in terms of emotional and intellectual development, especially for women. Still, it doesn't apply to everyone, and there's no way of saying whether or not she'll be on your level with those things based purely on her age. Age gaps are often a lot greater. We have a 12 year "gap" and never notice it.

 

They say guys in their early 20s and girls in their mid 20s to early 30s are at some kind of sexual "peak". Sounds like a lot of fuck potential to me.

 

Considering you live in the blue mountains and I assume she is driving up from Sydney, I wouldnt read too much in to that - as in its a little too desperate or whatever.

It might be just about the trip and destination itself, Its nice to get up there once in a while.

Parents used to take me to Blackheath pool when I was little, and every now and then I still go up there for the day just for the hell of it

 

Yeah, that's true, Vanilla, you get it. I thought it would be a little hard to communicate that. But yeah, there is that.

I feel it makes a difference sometimes at this age, and it's just a little intimidating being a guy, I guess. It's a little more uncommon for the girl to be older. Like, I'm not saying it's bad that she's 25, it's just uncertain territory, really. I have interesting opinions on things, and I am better read than most people my age, so I don't think I'll seem dumb or whatever. I'm mainly worried that because I'm unemployed and smoke a lot of weed then I will seem immature. But I do go to uni and make music, so idk! Gah I'm overthinking this. fml

 

In a nutshell, if it feels right, go on with it.

 

Most people, at age 20, are in the middle of school or working a dead end job before they select a career. Most 25 year olds are in the early years of their career paths. This is a considerable relationship hurdle.

 

Yes, this is exactly what I was thinking, creedlespeek. But I'm not really looking for a relationship from her anyway. So yeah, should be alright I guess.

 

See my other post.

 

I'm 26 and my boyfriend is 22. We are deeply in love, but yes there is a big difference between where we are in our lives right now. He's still studying and I am working. It can work, but I think there needs to be a reasonable level of maturity from the younger party.

 

Okay so when we hung out I didn't really get the vibe that she was into me. Her body language and shit, mainly. I probably didn't make as much of an attempt to flirt as I should have. Maybe alcohol would have helped that. Anyway, we talked non-stop for hours and have a lot in common so I think we'd make good friends. So I'm happy with that. I have plenty of other options and I'm always going out and meeting more. Life is goood.

 

my wife is 10 years older than me we've been together 23 years

 

^props on that mindset man.
being able to be cool with bein friends is a great thing and being that personable will take you for sure, right?

you should still try to fuck her though

 

Hahaha. Good man

 

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