How do you guys get in the mood for sex? Nearly nothing works for me, I'm not too into sex (I'm lazy) and I wanna do something to make my relationship with my boy better/hotter/closer/gooder. It's hard cause we've been together so long and I see people who've just got together all over each other and wish we were still like that..
Yeah, I don't see how I can offer any valuable advice either, I'm always in the mood. Try a little ambiance maybe, some candles, incense, oils, give him a massage first, or a bath. Put on some jazz, that always makes me horny(er) and maybe a glass of wine. Hope this helps some.
titty bars j/k I can't offer up much advice here as I'm generally pretty much always game for a role in the hay. well, with the right person that is.
Well, there are several things I have tried... -a boyfriend of mine and I got a copy of the kama sutra and went through every position -experiment (whipped cream and strawberries are fun stuff, and edible body paint can be fun) -invite a girl in for the night... -watch porn/hentai together -call into sunday night sex show and ask her advice, she is amazing!!!!!!!!!
do you realize there are some really hard positions in the kama sutra and over 300 total? (I'm not sure how new some of these are) that invite another girl thing is awesome, be my girlfriend
Well duck...to have you know I know that some of those positions are very very very hard to get into...but I have had 15 years of dance...lots of yoga training...and have been blessed with double jointed hips... And we had sex at least 5 times a day... So yes..we did go through all of them... And as for the girlfriend thing...well, we'll have to do some talking first but...*kiss* that can start ^.-
well i'd say the first thing you need to look into is the reason why you're not interested in sex. make sure there's not a serious reason that may need to be addressed. are you depressed? is your relationship happy? are you healthy? if everything is cool, and your problem really is apathy or boredom, then you have an unlimited number of options. and i promise you, the more ways you try to spice things up, the more ideas will come to you. you're in for some fun times ahead. people tend to take sexual arousal for granted, since sex is so goddamn much fun. but there are so many factors that can interfere with a person's sex drive - in addition to the more serious concerns above, it can be affected by stress, lack of sleep, unhealthy habits, caffeine, the weather...there can be so many things conspiring against us sometimes that it's no wonder we just feel like lying there counting ceiling tiles. so the first thing you have to do is decide to be sexy! it sounds way to simplistic, but you really do have to make an effort to see yourself as a sexual being and treat yourself accordingly. that means that you have to take care of your body, if you really want it to give you and your partner so much pleasure. diet, sleep, exercise, habits...in a nutshell, take care of yourself. and drink plenty of water too. good sex is healthy sex! give your body the love and pleasure you want it to bring to you and your partner. start thinking of yourself as a sensual being, and pay attention to the joys your senses find all around you. indulge in luxurious baths, self-massage, aromatherapy...buy yourself flowers, eat strawberries, slowly. give your body some sensual textures to appreciate: satiny sheets, faux fur, bare feet on the grass. if you want to spice up your love life, you have to stop thinking of yourself as sensually "lazy"; change your mind, decide to be sensual. it is important to remember women seem more "difficult" to arouse, mainly because men and women are aroused in different ways. men like to look, touch and taste. for a woman, it's more a "holistic" kind of arousal, that is to say it's the whole experience that is arousing, rather than one or two sights or events. that's not to say women don't have their fetishes or "hot spots" - just that, in general, we require more than a centerfold to get our temperatures to rise. i think by now it's clear that one's attitude toward sex has more to do with arousal than tricks or toys - but once you've opened your mind, then those tricks and toys can be wonderful tools in exploring a new sense of playfulness and creativity towards sex and arousal. i am an independent consultant for passion parties. toys are always a popular way for couples to experiment and play, but don't limit yourself to silicone and vinyl jelly. look up an old post of mine written in response to someone's question about masturbation. once you're begun to think creatively about sex, then opportunities for delight are all around you. consider massage, experiment with different positions, improvise your own toys. think about the erotic possibilities you can find even in a dollar store: lotions, olive oil for massage, body glitter, chocolate sauce, dog collars and leashes, wooden pizza shovels that make great paddles, glowing hallowe'en light sticks...don't be afraid of being too silly. an ex and i once had some fun with a squeaky rubber dog toy in the shape of a hot dog. it's this very sort of often-silly creative play that makes sex interesting, and keeps it fun. when i started selling for passion parties, i discovered sexual enhancement products for the first time. these are creams or lotion that you put on sensitive areas to sensitize them and often enjoy pleasant sensations of coolness or tingling. we carry a product called "pure satisfaction". it's a gel you put on your most sensitve spots, that increases blood flow and causes this wonderful tingling sensation. it's $35 a bottle. it is so totally worth it! but if you don't want to spend...try mint chutney! cool and tingly baby! play around with products containing mint for oral foreplay - mint jelly or chocolate mint sauce. i'm telling you, for a lot of people, it can feel amazing! i hope i've given you a few ideas; more importantly i hope i've helped to change your attitude about sensuality and arousal. no one or nothing can "make" you feel sexy - not the "right product" or the "right toy" or even the "right person". you can't be "made" to "feel" sexy or sensual - you have to make the decison yourself to be sexy and sensual. and as cliche as it sounds, it begins with taking care of yourself, and adjusting your attitude accordingly. enjoy yourself!
i would love to say something very romantic... but honestly, porn gets my blood flowing. Not no softcore porn neither... raw and dirty!
The thing that will make your sex life better is to do something new. Most likely your boyfriend sets the scene and pace of your sex life. How about you seduce him next time? Slowly disrobe while he watches you, making sure he is fully dressed. Then you strip him and then you initiate all the kissing, the oral, tell him to go down on you and then finish him off by getting on top. Actually, this is what a friend of mine did to me last Thursday. And it was good to have a girl take over and seduce me and even though I was already in the mood for her. The way she did it made me twice as hot. And I can't wait until next time our paths cross... Mark from Australia
