I've never experienced it, but can for certain tell that true love is where it's all at. Its kind of tragic when you think about those (like myself) who have seen it happen time and time again and only envied those who have it (that bible first can leave me alone!) but in all honesty, I think finding true love is essential for a human being's health. I'd love to find it. Maybe one day......
I can say that I am very lucky because I'm married since 13 years and I have a wonderful husband. BUT I won't say it is the true love. Not because I don't love him, far from that. Because I think that there's nothing perfect. No one will be the perfect one with everything going always perfectly. I found someone that was not perfect with whom I was fighting somewhat often. BUT we were loving each other, we were respecting each other and we were sharing values and dreams. If someone would ask me what you need to look for when you're trying to find that special one I would say those things; respect, sense of engagement and sharing values and dreams. That is what keep a couple together. Love is quite important, but love is changing. What you call love at the beginning is passion. And passion will cool down after a couple of month. But with all the good ingredients, the real love will go through the years...
I'm half on Sexohlala's train and half on your own. I am, in a very lovely relationship. Lotsa passion, lotsa dedication, and warm feelings -- going strong for nearly 5 years. And though I can say for sure, that I will always love her, and that she is the best thing in my life; I can't say for sure that it's "meant to be" or that it will always be this way (but I'm pretty damn sure it will be..) A lifetime's as good as anyone gets though, and when you see an old couple that still hold hands when they're out -- it's damn hard to say that true love doesn't exist.
Of course true love exists. The real question, imho, is whether reciprocal true love exists. I fell head, shoulders, torso legs and feet for a woman, who said she felt the same. We made plans, looked at houses, I met her family, the whole box n dice. I even loaned her money and (drum roll) she then dumped me quicker than you can say "sucker". But, even though I haven't seen her in 4 years, or spoken to her in 40 months, I still adore her. Always will, I suppose. Even though I never got back the money I'd loaned her, or the airfares I'd paid, blah blah blah. So, sure, true love exists. But I'm not convinced it is often, let alone always, reciprocated.......
I do envy those who are in happy relationships, and who seem to have found true love. I've never been loved, and my health is in very bad shape, so Id say finding love is definitely essential for your own well being. Im not saying everyone needs it, but Id say most people do. And whilst I've long wished that I didn't need to feel loved, unfortunately, I do... As for reciprocal love, well that's where I really have the problem. I myself have felt love, but I still don't know how how it feels to have those feelings reciprocated back to me. Which is very hurtful. I often wish I didn't have the capacity to develop feelings for anyone, because it seems very unfair.
even wonderful relationship and soul mates, true love etc.. have issues. It's impossible for a couple not to experience some kind of issue, whatever it is. Also, you can't go seek true love, true love is going to find its way to you
I'm totally agreeing with JagLexabar! You don't need to work on finding your love. At least not too hard. I was a single mother with a little girl that was 2 at this moment and I had a lot of trouble just meeting new people. So I decided to go on some dating website and I started to meet some guys. But you know how it works; some really guys but a lot of junks too just there to find someone for a little bit of fun. So I was cautious and go very slow, no pressure. Just looking et meet new people. Anyway, having a kid is sometimes a turnoff for some so... So I met the man that would become my husband. And as I said, I just wanted to meet people, not find the true love and get married right away. But it seems that he had found what he was looking for. A pebble hiding in the middle of rocks, he said. He found me! I never felt that way before. Even if he was not the type of person I though I would spend my life with, he prooved me wrong. True love is not always where you think you will find it!
