so gonna be completely straight up here to figure out what my deal is because it is getting really frustrating at times. I am 21 and still a virgin. I have had 1 gf before but never had sex with her, which was when i was 18. Since then, i have hooked up with girls, making out, touching, even going down on a girl once, but never all the way. Now, i have a girl who i really really like. She is 20 and we are pretty much a couple. I have gone over to her place a few times and the first time when we hooked up/made out it got heated and when i started fingering her she got really into it, and started rubbing my dick, and literally 10 seconds later i came. the thing is, whenever we are chilling and just kissing I am instantly hard. its embarrassing sometimes that even when she just touches me i get hard. I dont' know why this happens. Another time, after the first episode, same stuff was happening, and we were getting into it and she started taking my pants off and started rubbing my dick again and right before i put it in i had to cum again! So i figured i should just rub a quick one out before, and i did, but it still made no difference. I came before i was able to stick it in. We kept messing around and i was still fingering her so she wasn't getting upset or anything but its just embarrassing as hell for me. even after i had cum twice in 15 minutes i knew i would still bust early if i tried to go at it again. Is this because im a virgin? I'm so eager to lose it that i bust way early? or is it more serious problem like premature ejaculation that i'll have even with more experience? I was thinking it may be that i just recently stopped smoking marijuana, which i know can increase how long you can last, but that might be reaching for an answer. Either way, I love this girl a lot and don't know what to do, I know sooner or later she's gonna ask if im a virgin if she doesn't think it already, but i made fun of myself once and we laughed over it so it wasn't a huge deal but the longer this problem lasts the more frustrated i get. I just left her house disappointed as hell in myself for cumming 3 times, none of which were from any actual sex. HELP
Chill. Relax. The more you think about it, the more it will impact on your behavior. Think about what you can do for HER and concentrate on that.
No, I wouldn't class you as virginal either. Being a 58 year old female I know a bit about guys and there problems Discuss it with your friend, talk, laugh, try things. The more experience you get the less likely you are to have the problem. Penetration is not the be all and end all ( or whatever the fuck that expression is). Just enjoy your time together!
thanks for the replies i guess that eases my worries a tad bit. Im wondering if this is gonna be an issue for a while, a few more times, or if i'm just being too nervous about it. I felt like i was so close to doing it, but each time at the last second i bust! Also, in the future i was wondering if i cum in her or pull out? seems like a question i never really knew the answer to
As etherea said, use a condom. It's protection but it can help you too to wait a bit longer before you come when you will penetrate her. It's not magical but as a lot of men say they're feeling less with condoms, there are good chances that it will help you. Relax, take it easy! Come as much as you want. If you find that you're still coming to quickly, you can masturbate before you meet her. Or you can find some gel in sex-shop that will make you less sensible. It might help too. But the important thing is just taking it as it come, think to have fun with her, no matter how.
I was a virgin until I was 21. The first time I got my penis in a vagina I came instantly. For the first several months I would cum in seconds but get hard again right away, so I would cum but not pull out and start stroking again. Eventually I got better, but TBH I came pretty quickly for several years. I wouldn't worry about it, happens to lots of us.
No maybe I didn't express myself right (english is not my mother language). I just wanted to say that those gel are design to feel "less", like for anal sex if you don't want it to hurt. So he could be with his girlfriend but if he feel a little bit less, he might be able to keep going a little longer!
no worries, "sensitive" is the word you were looking for. it was just funny because "sensible" means something completely different.
I am nearly 24 and I am a virgin. I am not ugly nor do I come off as a crazy person (despite what you may think from reading my posts here!!) in real life. I attribute it to a couple of things. 1. I have a low sex drive, especially for a young male. 2. I have had many mental health issues that I have had to resolve which occupied my mind first-and-foremost, so getting a date was not a primary concern for most of my past 10 years. 3. I am a mathematician. 4. I am introverted. 5. I am also picky about what a possible date both looks like and acts like. So I really can't complain about it although I occasionally do!
