so am I actually straight just raised wrong? And if so how do I tell my parents?

I thought these past 2 years I was gay or worst a tranny kind of felt bad about it. I've never felt like an actual guy. I mean I can pretend for a day. But I'd sometimes wish I could just be myself. I'm religious yet I've been having 'gay sex' since I was 13. And I feel content but like I was doing something that was supposed to be unnatural. But girls seemed unnatural. I came out to my parent or well was outed over a year ago. They think I'm just gay but I still think I'm a guy.. I don't feel like a guy though. That is something I didn't think I'd tell anyone irl. I didn't want to embrace it even thoug I feel I'm not at all a guy. I'm just as much a girl as my girl friend from how I see it. But I don't know how to convince my parents without severe consequences. Online I actually never show my picture except once but it's always been as a girl. All my friends are girls. I blend in with them. I've always wanted to be them. To grow my hair out and style it. To give a damn about how I look. I don't actually have any signs of puberty really at all. Most of the time I am thought to be female. I'm tall though. A half a year ago I got these lumps small lumps that like were tender I thought it was cancer. I went to a dr. explained to me I have a syndrome called klinefelter's syndrome and I have two x chromosomes and a y. But I have an extra x chromosome. My parents I haven't really told but I don't want to have hormones to be a man. I don't want to change into a man if I'm not one.. I mean because of this who's really to say I'm a guy? I mean aren't I female? So aren't I just a normal straight female who happens to have some male characteristics? How do I tell my parents I don't want meds to be a guy or how do I convince them I'm actually a woman?

 

So are you biologically born as a male? You can get a written record from a doctor explaining your situation and you can elaborate more on how you feel... it will be a lot to take for your parents but there's no use in pretending if you can't hide it anymore.

 

I don't really know. I was born with xxy chromosomes and a disorder called klinefelter syndrome. So I wasn't born male completely since I have both characteristics. But who's to say I was born male? I don't see how I was if I have certain indicating factors different from normal guys

http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/klinefelter-syndrome/DS01057

 

that makes sense but I feel like my parents would be really upset if that was my choice.

 

aside from what some men say.. your penis does not have a brain and does not think for you.. Use your head and be yourself..

And why you say "Oh Worse, I was a Tranny?"..

 

I never really thought beung trans made sense but now everything makes sense to me

I just am worried what my parents would think really.

 

That's hard, but you aren't alone. People can be born with many different sex chromosome abnormalities. Sometimes I seriously wish homophobes would be forced to sit through a class on sexual and genital malformations and how sexual/gender identity isn't really as black and white as they would like it to be.

People can have just one X (Turner's syndrome), XXY, XYY, and there was even a case study recently of a man being born with XYYY. Then, for some people, their chromosomes are normal, but something happened in the womb and the hormones weren't released at the correct specific time and they look female. And some women are born with enlarged clitorises (they look like penises without a urethral opening). In fact, everyone starts out physically as a female in the womb, it's only when certain hormones are released at a certain time that male embryos get their genitalia. For every female part, there's a corresponding male part (ovaries drop to become testes, clit grows into penis, labia become scrotum, uterus becomes prostate, etc).

My point is, don't worry so much about labels. You are who you are. I really think you need to tell your parents about your diagnosis, it may help them understand. How did they react when they found out you were gay? There's always a chance that they won't accept you, and you know them better than me, but you might be surprised. If they don't understand LGBT issues now, they might if you tell them.

I would look into support groups/social functions for transgendered people, whether online or in real life. It's more common than you think. I'm assuming you're young, so you're still developing an identity. It's frustrating to try and figure out who you are while society is trying to tell you what you should be. But it can be done, you just have to get beyond the labels. Good luck

 

As Strawberry Fields said "don't worry so much about labels".
I to have Klinefelters syndrome XXY, I have made the choice not to recieve testosterone treatments.
Also when it comes to sexuality well, there is none never has been any and never will.
I am who I am, thats the way I was created.

I would if I were you explain to your parents you are who you are and there is nothing that will change that.

I am interested, what age did you find out you were XXY

 

they know I have klinefelter's syndrome. I found out so like recently. It's just like that what was recommended was to start treatment so that I could be a normal guy.but I'm just I guess nervous to actually explain that I don't want to. When they found out I was gay they really didn't handle it well but it's something they ant really control while this is a bit different.

 

I was givin that bull about taking treatments so I could be "normal", the fact is I already am normal I just have an extra chromosome.
There are certain health issues that come with Klinefelters if untreated with testosterone, but there are other less invasive treatments out there.

 

How old are you? Even if you're a minor, you still have a legal right to refuse treatment. This isn't a life or death issue, so no doc is going to force testosterone on you, even if your parents want you to have it. I'm sorry they didn't take you being gay very well. I would try and contact other transgendered people and ask their advice in coming out. You're parents may not accept you at first; they may come around later, or they may not. Either way, I would try and build up a supportive base of friends who accept you to cushion the blow if your parents refuse to deal with it. Good luck! This too shall pass.

 

15 16 in 2 days. they didn't force me or accept me.