HELP! Cant ejaculate during sex (male)

Alright I would really appreciate some of your advice because quite frankly im really nervous about dating a girl after this. Basically im 18 and about a year ago when i was 17 i had sex with a girl and it turned out to be horrible. After about 30mins i lost my erection because i could not feel anything. My penis is not small, its 6'6 inches erect not partically thick but not skinny either. I lost my erection 10mins after the second time after experiencing what i believe to be performance anxiety i didnt want the same thing to happen. Luckily this women who was in her early 20s lives about 10 miles from me and i will never see her again. But what on earth am i going to do? This was 7 months ago.

A little bit about me. Ever since i was about 9 i masturbated face down rubbing myself up and down on a carpet or my bed sheets. I believe this is called prone masturbation.

i didnt stop this habit until i met this girl. For 7 months now i have been masturbating normally. I belive this practise led to a decrease in sensitivity in my penis causing me to not get off ONCE in the 6 times i had sex with this girl... It sounds far fetched but i was a ruined "man". I was beside myself i really felt like i lost the man i me. Now whn im out in clubs i avoid girls a little bit because i fear one night they will want me to come back to there flat or something for a one night stand.

My fear is will i get my full sensitivity back? Ive conditioned my penis to obviously get off using my hand. Can i condition it to get off with a girl? My other fear is probably my worst is getting over my anxiety and me not being able to get hard at all if this happens. I litually fear a girl just laughing at me and tellng me to leave or something. I feel PATHETIC. What the hell am i going to do? i mean i know i have years yet before i consider getting into a relationship but i cant avoid girls forever bcause i fear SEX. While others are enjoying there years HAVING sex .


I have erections quite a lot and am always hard in the morning. I also masturbate once a day to porn. When not wanting to brag, but i could probably get sex now if i wanted...lol. And im no looker, but i do get girls who fancy me from time to time. Online is the only place i want to talk about it for obvious reasons.

If anyone has been through a similar experience and got passed it and succeeded in their sex lives please let me know. And also if you know what i could do to combat this i really need some replies.

Please....

 

Anyone??

 

Id also like to mention i was on a drug called celexa at the time which affectedmy ability to ejaculate while masturbating. But i got over this after about a month. I also stopped straight away taking the meds and after 2 weeks the same thing happened...Maybe it was the celexa aswell?

 

What about oral. Can you cum that way with a girl

 

I got close to it it felt better than intercourse. I feel a lot more sensitive down below since ive been masturbating the right way. Do you think this is a good sign? :S

 

if your penis is 6 foot 6, you're lucky to even be able to get an erection...


seriously, i think i've heard that masturbating facedown like that can cause issues. i don't remember the details so i won't expand, but you might want to look into that.

 

if you're nervous you're gonna mess up. personally i could annihilate a gal in 10 mins with my cock then if i lost it and she still seemed up to it just use your damn fingers bro!!!

i have major trouble cumming in girls also and never ever came from a bj or handjob or was even slightly close!

with my ex gf the sex got so bad in the end i'd just have to wank myself off then when i was gonna cum she'd suck the cum out of my dick.... yum

 

Can i have more details? Are you circumstised? How many times a day do you masturbate? Are you sensitive down there?

 

i'm not circumsized, i wank on average something like 0.7 times a day. depends how much privacy i have and how much drugs i have consumed that week/day.

i can maintain an erection and can fuck for ages and find it quite fun as the girl is always squirming and squealing as i never finish though normally it ends in me being too tired as i do all the work because a girl on top doesn't really do it for me as i need to aim it in right to feel it.

when i wank though i can cum in about 2-5 mins and find i cum really quickly recently when wanking. but any girls pussy i'll be pounding away for ageeeees and 19 out of 20 times won't cum in her or by her touch.

i don't actually care as i find the pleasuring a sexy girl much more fun than cumming in 2-5 mins. though if i have sex with the same girl for too long i just get bored of them ya know.

basically the first few times i fucked i couldn't keep up an erection high chance cos i was extremely drunk and cos i was nervous but when i realised it's pretty simple shit and nothing to worry about the fear went completely.

 

Bt are you trying to correct the problem? ave yu heard of death grip syndrome?

 

though when i went to france for 3 weeks about 2 months ago completely drug free but was drinking a bit the last week a fair bit more because it's fete (festival) week i was on average wanking like 3 times a day with no internet either.

think it was due to me being more healthy and not having much else to do :2thumbsup: when i got back it went straight back to normal though but that was probably due to the crap i consumed the day of my return.

i'm planning on detoxing from all shitty substances at the moment though as they just don't work for me anymore.

i have had some crazy drug sex though, on a cocktail of ketamine, heroin and crack (i don't actually really do crack or heroin but was this weekend because it was there and i was on a major high banging this bird, also i'm done with ket as well horrible shit ruining my life and happiness). i'd fuck her til i was just exhausted then smoke and sniff a load of shit then keep going and continue until she was fucked out!! we didn't leave my bed for 20 hours was quite a session i tell theeeee :2thumbsup:

 

i haven't heard of it i'm going to try just being healthy also the girls pussy seems to make a big difference too. small tight girls are sooo much nicer than loose girls.

 

Maybe im exageratting the situation then. I mean good on you if you're still enjoying your sex life. I was on an ssri drug at the time so im sure that effected my sex life too. I would like to here other peoples opinion on this matter if they wouldn't mind.

Shall i start using lube everytime i masturbate? What things could help me? And does this sound like its an issue to you? Please i need a couple more responses if not just to settle my mind...Thanks. And thanks for the replies so far

 

you've only had sex once i think you should just do it more mate everyone says the first time is fucking shit.

 

If you penis is still sensitive enough to get off from masturbating, it should still be sensitive enough to get off from a girl.

Maybe you should just not wack it for like a week or two, and try to avoid rubbing your penis around, then see if any of the sensitivity comes back.

Usually if you wait like 3 days its like brand new again, idk hope it works.

 

To be fair she wasnt loose but she was a lot older than me and taller. Im 5'7 and she was 5'10 5 11 LOL. And she had sex a lot according to her :S

 

for all you know she could be the most loose girl you ever exp

 

Sorry to be rude but does anyone else have anything they would like to add? I would really appreciate it. Especially if you have been through the same thing...

 

Exposy - you are sexually inexperienced, and in your first attempt at sexual intercourse you clearly had performance anxiety. It will pass as you get more experience, with the same partner or several ones. Try not masturbating so much before you have intercourse, and don't take drugs. A three or four day buildup of sperm should let you complete the ejaculation. Let me know how it goes. Are you circumcised?

 

Nope im not circumcised. And thanks