Hate my family

College plan/Bank plan is when the bank takes out $20 or any amount every 2 weeks you week into your kids bank account. $20...I don't think thats a big deal...It doesn't even have to be in your kids account...I'm 18 and I do this for my saving account, for emergencies or anytime I want to travel....

I used the word smart because i think it's a smart idea for a parent to do that in my opinion. If a parent doesn't do it, doesn't mean its a bad thing either...Everyone has their own situation...you took what I was saying out of portion.

It's not about how much money you have , it's what you do with it...And i believe education is important to some degree, so investing in your kids future is a good thing...and I applaud any parent who does that.

 

Giving money to someone doesn't make you a good person...You don't know what's going behind doors in the OP home...people want to leave for a reason...and sometimes it's the best decision

 

Not if it's not his money. If it is his money, then he should do whatever he wants, if it is not, he should give it back and make it on his own. It's easy to take a crapton of someone else's hard-earned money and spend it on whatever your heart desires, but that's a foolish way to learn to live and be independent. There's nothing wrong with following your heart's desires, but they shouldn't just fall in your lap. Life's not that easy.

 

why should he give it back? Its a gift from his parents im guessing. Why would you give it back, his/her parents did this for a reason...

It's like you saying if you won the lottery you should give it back

 

This is ignorance talking. It's very obvious you've never been poor, and have probably had most things handed to you your entire life. My parents were poor. My dad was a carpenter during my 10-14 age, and our toys were the scrap cutoffs they had from building houses. It did improve my imagination. I mean, while most kids were watching television I was playing with a scrap wood piece that was an airplane. We had no TV. If you make minimum wage today you make like $7.20 per hour, and most of those people don't work full time jobs any more (so their employer doesn't have to pay benefits) so they work 32 hours per week for $230.04, minus taxes, maybe $175 per week. They are single mothers with 2 children and no support because the father is a loser. So they have to pay rent, groceries, utilities, and transportation with $700 per month. When their car breaks down they pay to have it fixed with a credit card, then every 10 years they file bankruptcy because they have no money to pay their credit card off. $20 a week to save for their kids education is what they fantasize about. More people live like this than you can imagine.

 

Nothing was ever handed to me, I work for everything I have, I am very independent only at the age of 18, My mother works with kids and other families, I met many families who go through what you and others did, but then found a way to save for their kids...it doesnt have to be $20 dollars ...it doesn't even have to be money...yu can invest in other ways.........like i said every situation is different

Im not being ignorant , I just don't believe in excuses

I am talking about personal savings for yourself just in case of an emergency. For example, you don't have alot of money but you can be smart with what you do with it.

 

I think this kid should stay put and get a stable grounding until they've grown up a bit. Sorry to be such a bore, but this sounds like whining about nothing, which indicates someone who needs to grow the fuck up rather than take off across the country on their own with nothing but some money which will run out incredibly quickly without a serious plan. Then you'll go running back to your mummy and daddy, or you'll set yourself up a shit life.

At the moment you are safe and you have opportunities (even if it's not college, why does it have to be running away and spending all your money on doing so like a moron? You could just get a job)

I left school and went abroad at 17. Guess what...it was a fucking stupid "plan". What followed was 5 years of taking a massive wrong turn in my life, and now I am having to catch up. I'm now in my first year of university yet again with a bunch of 18 year olds, struggling to afford it. Why didn't I just stay put? Because I was 17...you can be stupid when you're 17.

 

Okay... I'm only responding to this thread one more time because you keep asking questions I've already answered and I'm tired of repeating myself. If I saved my hard-earned money for years and years so my kid could get an education, it would be a hell of a slap in the face if instead of using that money to further an education, they fucked off to Kalamazoo never to be seen again with it. See, maybe people who haven't had to work for everything they have don't understand that, but I'm still struggling to make ends meet so I can even put back money to go to school because my whole childhood was a string of bad luck and financial downfalls for my family. My mom was sick and lost her job, my dad got laid off during the summer my mom was sickest. My parents couldn't afford to put back money for me to go to school and after all the heartache I watched that cause them, I find it disgusting anyone would take their college money and spend it on anything else. That's all I'm saying, taking money that someone set aside for you so you could go to college and spending it on whatever the fuck you feel like instead is a slap in the face to your parents. It's disrespectful and immature.

I've had my say now, I'm done. Feel free to keep arguing, but you'd be better off talking to a wall.

 

Not my parents money. It's MY money from working basically my whole life and an inheritance from a relative.

So for all you people flaming, get your facts straight first.

 

So you probably made $5,000 working a few summers and inherited 25k from a family money. That's really working your whole life there, champ.. and I say this because it seems that you think money is something that just falls into your lap and is always available.. it's not. My parents didn't have $20 a week or two per child to put away.. that's $80 for my whole family.. my dad has rarely ever worked or contributed financially and my mother has always never made enough to pay the bills or mortgage and we get monthly reminders from the mortgage company and she has to end up borrowing emergency money from my grandmother who reluctantly gives it to her and then harps her about it knowing she can't now and probably will never be able to pay her back. And don't even consider calling my parents irresponsible for having so many children.. my parents wanted one child, just about every couple wants a baby.. my parents got pregnant first and were ecstatic when they found out they were pregnany the first time, then consumed by fear upon realizing we were twins. My other two sisters were conceived while my mother was taking birth control, and you can't say 'she is irresponsible for missing her pill' as she was on the depo shot. So no, $20 per kid is a LOT of money for someone in the financial situation that my family is in. So thanks for being knowledgable, and by that I mean you're a complete and utter moron about the conditions of society and the world outside of your little security guarded mansion over there with mommy and daddy still providing everything for you.

 

Don't waste your relative's money and fail out of school, but unless you earned that money yourself, don't you dare use it for anything other than its intended purpose. That makes you a thief. If you want to quit, then be on your own, truly, but don't use a relative's money, because that isn't really being independent. That's being a lazy leech.

Life's hard, OP. Want to be a big boy? Go work on an Alaskan oil line. Do some construction work. Be blue collar instead of a spoiled baby who thinks college is making you unhappy.

 

It's funny how you seriously act like you know me. I have worked my whole life (not just summers) since I was 12. My inheritance was about 6k for taking care of my dying Aunt when I was the only one that would. I didn't have one of those "$20 a week funds." I don't need to live an extravagant lifestyle to be happy, I have no problem doing manual labor. As long as there is a roof over my head and food to eat I am happy. Truthfully, I don't care about what you have to say because you just seem like an ignorant prick.

and @creedlespeek How much time have you spent on an Alaskan oil line? As I have already said I have done manual labor and have no problem doing it. But nice try.

 

4 years. when you're in school it seems like forever. in life, it's the blink of an eye. it's mostly finish school or get a job. do what you have to do to try and live everyday. im doing what i think is the right move for me. with this in mind, i have to remind myself not to think about finishing school before i start living, but to live life now, as it is now.

 

a large inheritance... op you're right

your relatives fucking suck.

 

you might think i'm 'flaming'

but my adverted attempt to persuade family upon you

since you only get one set of parents

is anything but.

 

apparently you missed the part about it being a $6k inheritance from taking care of a dying aunt. there is also nothing about washing dishes.

im just saying. seems to me theres some serious assholery going on in this thread.

 

if i bought you a box of chocolates

but stole the money to pay for it from your wallet

where does that leave us?

 

in my opinion:


we should feel morally indecent to even slightly facilitate

the breaking up of a family

knowing the people in question suffered possible hubris

and frankly - the typical attributes of most parents

and the typical attributes of most children :frown:

 

If you have no problem working and supporting yourself, do it. You have a roof over your head and food to eat, and you're crying earlier you're not happy. You're a kid, and you don't have a clear vision of what makes you happy. Some of us have the maturity to figure that out at 14, and some of us don't gain it until 30.

You originally said your inheritance was 25k, and now it's only 6k. First you said it was for taking care of your dying aunt, and then you said you've always had a job. (I've taken care of dying people at work. It's a full time job, and I couldn't run out and pick up an extra shift if that person was my 24/7 responsibility.) It seems you're not being honest by your boldly contradictory statements, and frankly, if you won't tell the truth, no one can help you.