seriously man first times having sex aren't gonna give you much clue to how you're gonna react in the future.
I hear you p0ly . Just one last question. It is obvious that my failure here was a mixuture of nerves being on an ssri drug and masturbating face down as a kid and therefore not being used to normal sexual feelings with a girl. Now i was reading an old thread earlier and someone posted "However if you read the forums / discussion board at fleshlight dot com a lot of guys initially complain they find their new toy loose and unsatisfying due to being used to masturbating with a death grip fist but after a few days or weeks playing with their new toy and readjusting to it's sensations they don't even want to use their hand anymore... " Shall i invest in a fleshlight where a condom and just get used to it? My dream would be to get a girl and practise every night but thats not going to happen AHHH.
If you cant answer that ^ would you tell me if it would make sense to use a lot lot of lube when i masturbate? I have heard that some men cant climax because their girlfriends vagina is way tooo wet for them to get off. If i practise making my hand and penis wet would it condition it more. I also plan to use a very soft touch. Thanks..
From your elaborate description, I'll have to ask if there is anything about the other sex that turns you on ? If no, here is a simple efficient solution! To avoid performance being affected by anxiety, take a Viagra ! And that problems is solved! (3 tablets tops/day 25 min to take effect ! Depending on brand ofc) If after 3-4 rounds you are not calmed down when having sex, I'll have to suggest a psychologist Good luck ! P.s. You are having sex for the pleasure ! Not stress ... If she won't like it, she's not for you, at least you found out fast and relatively painless !
Apparently masturbating the way you did can actually cause exactly what you explained. This is just something I read on the internet, I have no idea if it's actually true or not though. http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20090517171131AA2ykZK