ive been talking to this kid for about 2 months after a recent long relationship break up. This kid is so sweet and has the best personality ever! I like him a lot but i have run into a HUGE problem and its in the bedroom. The first time we tried to have sex we were both wasted so his excuse for not being able to "get it up" was because he was too drunk. I personally am a big horndog i guess you could say so sex is REALLLLY important for me. however i let it slide cuz i really like him and it was a valid excuse. A week later the same thing happened except his excuse was "I'm paranoid youre not really on birth control" i was EXTREMELY flustered but yet again let it slide. And just last night our third attempt, we had been in public and teasing each other all day (and drinking) so by the time we got to the hotel things were really heated. I was able to get him halfway hard and got it in but then it went soft. We were able to keep it in a while and he acted like we were having great sex. I just sat there and rolled my eyes while he moaned. I really dont know what it is but it is SOOOO aggravating. Im sitting there horny as all get out soaking wet and he cant even get a hard on. It lowers my self esteem. I almost at the point of slipping a viagra in his drink next time! IS THERE ANYTHING I CAN DO TO FIX THIS?! He asked me this morning if "he was good" he makes it super awkward and i don't have the guts to tell him. but it is ABSOLUTELY TERRIBLE! PLEASE HELP!
so on a serious note, when you say kid, i'm assuming under 20. I have never heard of someone that age not being able to "get it up". Only explanation i can think of is if he jerks off a lot. but still seems pretty weird. You should be honest with him and tell him what u just told us
It could be anything from stress to him being on anti-depressants to him not really being attracted to you. I had this problem for about six months with my girlfriend before we were finally able to have sex. Just my own mental things I had to work through. Now I can build a house on top of my erection and we fuck like gods for hours. So it comes down to this question: Do you like him enough to keep trying? It could take a while . Of course he could be gay too.
we're both 22 and that why its horrible! like i thoroughly sexually experienced and like to get wild and this kid cant even get hard, i'm gonna have to get a fuck buddy on the sid but i dont wanna do that to him hes so sweet!
All the things said. I've had a hard time simply learning to have sex.... it feels rather different with someone other than your hand. If he watches a lot of porn, simply watching/imagining instead of doing can become part of the process. Go talk to him seriously about it. I mean, maybe he could use a viagra, or something. If he's strait and seriously interested he shouldn't mind talking and finding a solution. Same with you. Have him NOT masturbate for a day (or 7) and then try. Try different things, I still don't stay hard a real long time in some positions, they just don't give much feeling at all, while others I'm instantly rock hard.
Best advice: don't drink alcohol. Perhaps you should talk to him about the trouble. If he isn't in good shape that could also be the cause for the "softness".
