Ok. I have a dilemma here. I have been alone for nearly one year. And 2 month ago I have meet one boy from another country ( let call him Tom). He had vocation in my city. We have met each other on one dating site before this. When we met each other in real - we fell in love. We spend 6 wonderful days together and then he left. Now we communicate with him by Skype every day for 2 or more hours. He is very serious about me and he saying that he loves me. I also feel like I love him. And he going to visit me again in 2 weeks, and after I am going to visit him after Christmas. We even talk about marriage and I really want this. As we talk to much by Skype we still don't know how much do we suet to each other. Before Tom I met another boy on the same dating site. This guy is very handsome and he is very rich, he is a consul of the Brazilian embassy, and he is very smart. (I love smart guys). We had several dates and we had wonderful sex 1 time. After sex happened he didn't call me for 1 month. And suddenly he appeared 2 weeks ago. He said that he was very busy, and that is why he couldn't call me. And that he like me very much. But I think he want only sex from me. It is nice to spend time with him but i want more serious relationship. Ok, So after Brazilian guy called me we met on lunch, and he asked that he want to meet with me like before. I also do like him but I can’t deceive Tom, I will disrespect myself after. But I also don't want to loose that Brazilian guy as I don't know how our relationships with Tom will be. I want to make him wait after Tom will come and I will know how this is. The problem that Brazilian guy call me every day, and every time I crating some stories why I cant meet with him. I think he will tired soon. What should I do in this situation?
the choice is some guy you say you love...or some fuck buddy that you lie to and he lies back to you? are you retarded?..
i think that kinda answers your question. if the brazilian guy can put you on hold for 2 months, you can put him on hold too. you can probably even ask him when he'll be "busy" again. but don't rush into anything too serious with Tom! what is this relationship with Tom based off of really? and you havent had sex with tom correct?
Yeah, you right. I will let Brazilian wait. But why not rush into serious relationship with Tom? I want this. I will definitely marry him if he proposes. I want to create family very much. It is already time for this. And I feel that I love him. So why not? P.S. We haven’t had sex with Tom, but we were very close to this. And of course we will have it coz we both want this and we will live togather till the time he will be in my country visiting me. Just I afraid if something will happen and we will not be together I will regret that I lost Brazilian. (I am not serious to him , coz I feel that he doesnt serious about me). I dont want to make a mistake again...
do you actually give a fuck about either guy, or are you just desperate to claim a husband no matter what? if that's all you're after, just go with the rich guy, because he's rich. that's what you liked about him in the first place, isn't it? sounds like some good, slimy, fatty fun.
Yes, of course financial status is very main for me. Like for everybody. Every girl care of that. It is one of the reason why I have suspect to the Tom. He is not rich at all. He is a policeman and he always complain that he doesn't have money for something. I afraid that he is greedy, and it is what I hate in men. Maybe it is culture differences, but in my country men always pay for girl and don't push them to work after birth of child. And he said that in his country women go to work after 4 month after birth of child, and he doesn't going to maintain nobody. Brazilian giving me a presents and flowers and but he doesn't look at me seriously.. Incited of this Tom want to marry with me but don't pay attention to present me some expensive presents and even flowers. But I want to marry as fast as possible because I need have a baby. It is question of my all my future life.
go for the rich guy then. you'll be happier since you can have lots of money without earning it, and tom deserves someone who has some kind of interest in him anyway. i kind of feel sorry for the baby.
I think just nobody understand me.... Tom coming in 5 days and he is very into me same as I ... Lets see what will happens. P.S. I had lunch with Brazilian today...He is so cool...
wtf I knew many cool women in my life but never even get close to women who do it for money ... theres a word for women who earn their money like that...with one or several men- whats the freakin difference? what has fuckin money which is one of the most evil things in the world have to do with love or so?
So your ok if your future husband cheats on you, is rearly home and doesn't care about the kids as long as he's rich and gives you expensive gifts, while you're a housewife and childbearing machine. From what you've written I see him as a cross between sperm donor and money bank... Have you ever thought about what a baby needs? Or do you only care about what you want? This isn't just about your life.
quit playing games with men before you get dumped. forget the brazilian guy he doesnt seem to be taking you seriously anyways.
The Brazilian guy is playing you. He will use you and he will not marry you. Therefore you will get insufficient funds to support a baby from him. idk what country you're from but I'm against pretty much any gender roles that are ingrained in culture beliefs of a society because they are a one-size-fits all policy that really isn't fair to individuals. Baby's are NOT status symbols of a girl/women's worth. If you want to simulate what it's like to have a baby of your own, try setting your alarm clock to ring every 45 minutes for a year, and staying up long enough to "feed and clean" it and then try to go to work and do all the other stuff an adult needs to do so bills are paid. It's hard and if you every find yourself going insane to the point of where you might get angry at your baby because him or her is not giving you rest you should not be a mother. --- In regard to your guy question Tom seems more genuine. I'd go for him and I would NOT play mind games with him. (Kinda sounds like your the type of girl that might think that's a wise thing to do. It isn't, it just makes guys mad and confused).
