I'm lonely...

I would never admit it to my friends or family, I put up such a tough exterior.

But I am just so lonely.

I just want someone to love me, just because I am me and it is so very sad that me doesn't seem to be enough.

That's my true confession.

 

Are You In A Big City, Or A Small Country Town....?



Cheers Glen.

 

Big city at the moment.

I tend to move around a fair bit.

 

Big Cities Have Unlimited Opportunities To Meet People, But

They Can Also Be The Loneliest Place On Earth....

Do You Socialise Much Or Are You A Stay At Home Girl....?



Cheers Glen.

 

No I am quite social, have plenty of friends - but you can still feel alone when surrounded by people.

 

My lonliness has nothing to do with being able to meet people, I don't have any trouble meeting them.

 

Well In That Case, Just Be Patient, Tis Only A Matter Of Time Before

That Special Person Appears...:love:



Cheers Glen.

 

Oh if I had a dollar for every time I heard that....

 

you want love? love will cure your loneliness? since you said you have friends.

you want someone who is head over heels smitten with you?

I'm hoping that at your age you had people like that in your life before.

I hear in whispers that happiness comes from within and self-esteem yada yada, love yourself and never feel alone stuff. but honestly, eventually without my love I'd wither away suffocated by the friendly banter of associates, smothered by the gentle interrogation of family members.

 

No, I don't think I have had anyone in my life that was smitten with me. I don't think I have ever been in love either.

There have been men in my life, but nothing serious.

 

And I don't mean I want someone to love me - but that I want to just be accepted for who I am, warts and all.

 

when you feel alone it is good to try to find the love in your own heart;
it is a real powerful love that you have for yourself,.. and it is hard to live on your own love, but sometimes you have to

 

Me too.

 

Dont you love all those cliches they throw at you. Even though everyone that finds that special someone ends up turning into one half of a cranky married couple that bores the fuck out of everyone else.

Maybe its you, maybe you are just a hopeless romantic and you actually enjoy feeling that way. Maybe if you do find that 'special' someone you are just going to get bored too quickly anyway, and then end up as mind numbingly dull as everyone else - maybe thats actually your greatest fear

I see you are Aussie, an in a big city, so I'm guessing either Sydney, Melbourne or Brisbane. If its Sydney, man I so love this city, its awesome......but...."The people are so warm and friendly" Only tourists that stay a couple weeks say that, and by friendly they are talking about all the locals that are friendly so as to sponge money off the tourists. Sydney siders and rude greedy egotistical little fuckers.

I'm going to be very un-PC here for a bit: Australia as a whole, there are way too many bogans here. Pretty much the entire straight white male population, man they are feral, I dont know how you put up with them. On the flip side, the entire straight white female population ( and they are actually all the same ) they do expect to much, unless he has a 6 figure salary, an audi, already owns his own house and ready to make a life long commitment by the 3rd date - then they dont get the time of day. Then they all sit around on girls nights out over your cocktails bitching about why they dont have a boyfriend. Then after 8 cocktails, with mascara running down the face, cling over the back of the taxi and barf into the gutter - which may be another clue as to why they dont have a boyfriend.

I'm white BTW, so I'm not dissing another race, but this is a truer reflection of Australian society too many bogans, and too many bogans that are bogans and they dont even realise just how bogan they are

So maybe its not you at all, maybe it is everyone else

 

ouch!

 

Learn to accept yourself and the acceptance of others will be unnecessary...

 

I would just like to say that the cliche's people use bother me a lot as well, especially "stop looking". I am a full time business owner working 6-7 days a week and sometimes 12-14hrs a day. If I'm not looking I won't find anything at all! sorry that one just really bothers me. Always keep a smile on your face, stay happy, try and be social when you can. Above all else love yourself and screw what anyone else thinks

 

Isnt that another cliche....love yourself? What does that even mean?


And learn to accept yourself? What that fuck does that mean? Accept what? When exactly do you not accept yourself???

 

These terms only have meaning for those of us who seem to have a tendency to feel shame or even hatred toward ourselves for various aspects of our personality or appearance or whatever. If you feel totally great about every aspect of yourself, as you seem to be implying you do, then you don't need to learn to love or accept yourself.

The lack of self-acceptance really all boils down to social fear - fear of being sent to the forest to die for having failed society's expectations in some way (or at least sent alone to our homes to live without the pleasures of human company).

 

Self acceptance would be a great thing - how exactly does one do that?