I need serious help,I don't even know who or what to turn to.Where do I start? Ok, I have a boyfriend of 4 years..we live together. Beautiful person,really good man to me. Always have been faithful to him,never cheat. Here is my problem: I been working at this place for 3 yrs.Off and on I have had a crush which has turned to infatuation for this also beautiful creature that I work with. Something draws me to him. He inspires me,makes me write enchanting poetry. My poems just flow out of my core because of him. I want to mention that in the 3 yrs we have only had 3 consecutive conversations. I guess he is shy,or I was shy when he tried to talk to me friendly. I am on the "on" again infatuation with him.. Since when I see him on a break,I clam up,stiffen up and just zone out pretend to be doing something else so he don't talk to me;I decided that I really wanted to talk to him and the only way was to fake it... On a social networking site,I made a fake profile and wrote him a message eventually adding him to a chat program..Now we chat on a regularly basis,yet I go to work and it's very strange not talking to him..just having it be like a complete wall,no hi,no bye..no nothing..then I go home and chat,and it's like whoa..he digs my fake profile.. Now I'm in a bigger mess since I got feelings for him..and I just feel totally lost. I have no friends and nobody to talk with this except my own mother who (is more like the voice of reason not follow your heart type thing) Yet I have a boyfriend.. All I wanted is to be friends with this guy, so he can see that I'm an awesome person and if something develops then fine if not fine... It's hard to get a break with him at work,since we're on different schedules at work..and it's hard to find a break alone with him to make my move. I'm totally lost, please somebody help me..I really want this guy, I hate that I talk to him as someone else and not me..I'm infatuated with him. I have a boyfriend..I'm stuck! Help..
My first suggestion would be to drop the fake profile thing. Dishonesty of any kind is not a healthy way to start a relationship (platonic or not) Talk to him and get to know him as a friend.
ok no relationship is perfect, do you realy know this guy you are infatuated with, or is he just a fantisy? it is very easy to put a guy on a pedistool, but beliveve me if you were with this guy full time as a bf you would get complasant about him to, the novalty would wear off and after some time of washing his dirty clothes and cleaning up after him and all the realities off life, he would not be the perfect guy you think he is. you have been with you bf for years now and we all get that feeling this guy exites you, your bf prob does not anbymore as you realy know him the honeymoon fase is over for u two. what i think you realy have to do is ask yourself some very seriouse questions, do you love your currant boyfriend, how much do you love him?at the end of the day who is the man you want to have kids with, you want to spend the rest of your life with? remember the honeymoon period does not last, not for or with anyone, and when it's over who will you be left with? is this love or just infatuation? if it is just a crush enjoy it but do not let it jepordise you relationship with your boyfriend if you realy love him. if you don't realy love your boyfriend 100% and do want to be with this other guy because not only does he exite you but he is the one for you, then do the right thing and leave your bf let him find someone who sees what a great man he is and loves him no matter what. good men are very very hard to find.
I pretty much agree with this. However I would add the statement of "Drop your current boyfriend." If your interested in someone else there is no good reason to hurt him. Like you said he's been good to you. Now be good to him and let him down easy so he and you can both find someone you are happy with.
If I ever found out that someone had made a fake name to talk to me, I would probably never talk to them again. And if I didn't find out, that would make me even MORE angry, if I ever managed to figure it out. You're apparently totally alone, talking to your mom..... you're grabbing onto the first thing you see because you (for some reason) seem to have no life whatsoever. Go make healthy friends with other people. Being a creeper sure won't let you make real friends..... Fraid you blew that one the minute you mis-represented yourself to him. And has been said, you should probably end your current relationship.
yeah definitely stop with the fake profile chatting thing. lil creepy. second. you have to figure out whats more important to you. someone you care about and love (least i'd assume so, because you'be been with him for 4 years), or a crush. you dont know how its going to go, shouldnt take the chance in screwing something up for nothing, who knows.. what if that guy at work, doesnt feel the same way, and then you end up losing both of them. you really don't know much about him... do you still like your current boyfriend? why are you with him? think it through a little better. there are lots of guys at my work that i think are super cute, and i'd definitely hook up with if i were single. but i know my bfs (3.5 years)been there for me all along, and i wouldn't fuck it up. i'd be retarded to ruin something good. its hard to find someone you are comfortable with, and can really trust.
