I've always wanted to have anal sex but it just won't work for me. Any advice on how to get over this besides... 1. Lube 2. Toys 3. Beads 4. Good old fashioned finger I've tried to do anal but I can never get past the pressure although I love watching anal porn :2thumbsup:
Well, it's absolutely natural that it seems impossible. Rare are the ones that can do it easily the first time. Each person and each intercourse is different, but most women need to be REALLY excited to do anal sex. Really excited and really relaxed. Not trying to relax but truly are. Another thing is, when you try that, you often focus on the anal sensation. Because it might hurt or make you feel uncomfortable or weird, the whole experience seems bad. But if you play with yourself, with your clitoris especially that is really full of nerves and gives you a lot of good sensations, you will "mix" the sensations instead of focussing on your butt. Most of the time, by doing that, it will help you to relax and become more "open". Taking the time is really important too. And it's always better if you control what is happening by taking the situation "in hand" literally. So, be sure to get really excited, I mean REALLY excited, with your boyfriend teasing your anus while is doing something else that arouse you a lot. You will probably come at a point that you will like the anal stimulation and want to have "more". If you don't feel it already, don't rush. It's not a matter of days. If anal stimulations become natural in your intercourses, it will happened one day or another. When you get there, use as much lub as possible and take a position where you can take the penis fully in your hand and try to insert it at your pace. The spoon is a really good position to start. By grabbing it that way, only a small part would come in. So it will be easier to avoid pain. You don't need to get the whole penis inside at first. Take what you can. When the head is inside, you can even stop moving and play with yourself for a moment. You might get more and more excited and want to have more inside of you. Don't forget, it's not necessary to do it right away. Take your time, if it's working, perfect! Go slow and follow your feeling. If not, pass on something else and come back later. You need to stay excited. If everything's going well so far and you think you will be able to go further, then you can remove your hand for a more complete penetration. Don't forget to stimulate your clitoris! One step at a time, it's not a race!
Mz Understatement.... I love reading your posts. Seem like one fun girl haha As far as anal sex goes I cant really help you but wanted to mention the above lol
It might just not be for you. It's not the end of the world. Some dig it, some don't. If you're dead set on it, just keep trying, but go slow.
it may even be the guy that your with. my ex hated it with her ex, but really enjoyed it with me. my current gf wont let me anywhere near her. ....... so if theres any takers lol!
